Control Comes from Within

Your internal world — the reality that you experience within your mind
and emotions — is a world that you and only you control and create. You
may be able to manipulate your exterior world (ie: change jobs to get away
from a bad boss, move to a new home to increase space, reshuffle your
finances to improve your future security, etc.), but it is the world
inside that you really have the most influence.

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Follow Your SOUL to Avoid Midlife Crisis

‘Tis the Set of the Sail — or — One Ship Sails East

Ella Wheeler Wilcox 1916

But to every mind there openeth,
A way, and way, and away,
A high soul climbs the highway,
And the low soul gropes the low,
And in between on the misty flats,
The rest drift to and fro.

But to every man there openeth,
A high way and a low,
And every mind decideth,
The way his soul shall go.

One ship sails East,
And another West,
By the self-same winds that blow,
‘Tis the set of the sails
And not the gales,
That tells the way we go.

Like the winds of the sea
Are the waves of time,
As we journey along through life,
‘Tis the set of the soul,
That determines the goal,
And not the calm or the strife.

Midlife Transition : 5 great books to read

1. Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte

Jane Eyre was the first novel that really moved me and surprised me as a woman. I think this is true for a lot of female readers. Jane Eyre is told from the point of view of a 12-year-old girl in a dreadful situation. She’s an orphan who is adopted by a cruel bunch of people and sent to a horrible boarding school. So it’s about travail, but more importantly, it’s about coming through travail. Jane is a very brave, bold, upstanding girl who always seems able to defend herself, even in terrible situations.

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GENERATIONAL TRAITS

A generation is a group defined by age boundaries. They have:

Shared experiences growing up

Similar workplace values and attitudes

GENERATION BORN CURRENT AGE DEFINING ERA

Matures (Radio Babies) 1920-40 70-90 The Depression/WW2
Boomers 1940-60 50-70 Prosperity/Upheaval
Generation X 1960-80 30-50 Technology
Millennials (Gen Y) 1980-2000 <30 Communication

CORE VALUES

MATURES (aka: Radio Babies, The Greatest Generation) 5% of WORKFORCE

Influenced by family and religion Sacrifice for the common good Education is a dream

Leisure a reward for hard work Conformity Law and order

Respect for authority Delayed reward Adherence to rules

Structure Loyalty Duty before pleasure
BOOMERS 45% of WORKFORCE

Focus on individual, not company Personal gratification Education a birthright

Health and wellness Permissive Good self-esteem

Question authority-challenge leaders Rock and Roll –expression of identity Ideologues

Opened dialogue-end-of-life issues Value Youthfulness Team Oriented

GENERATION X 40% of WORKFORCE

Diversity-Accepting of various lifestyles Sexual freedom Tech savvy

Women’s movement Global thinking Work/Life Balance

Downsizing affected loyalty Work to live Informality

Self-reliance Questions organized religion Ignores leadership

MILLIENNIALS (aka: Generation Y) 10% of WORKFORCE

Techno communication Leisure interwoven with work Flexible

Optimism Contact with boss Casual work dress

Civic duty Morality Confident

Street smart Accepts diversity Peer oriented

Sources: Zemke, Ron, Claire Raines and Bob Filipczak (1999) “Generations at Work”

Raines, Claire (2002) “Meet the Generations”

Notter, Jaime (2003) “Generational Diversity in the Workplace”

Wikipedia (2009) Generational Definitions

Baby Boomers in Midlife Transition – How do You Handle Challenges?

How do you handle Challenges?
If you’re like most people I know, you face them
squarely, and Do whatever it takes to handle them.
You take action even if you aren’t sure what to do.
That’s who you are. At least a large part of you.

But what about that part that isn’t sure? You know, the one that says you aren’t enough, or you don’t really have what it takes, or you’re never going to get it all right.

I applaud you for being one who tackles challenges by doing, but
for now, I want to talk with the part of you, who like me, aches and longs for even more….
We long for a real clarity about our lives and our mission.
We long for the feeling of full satisfaction that our talents are being fully expressed and fully accepted. We long to take more action on the things we know are important in our lives, but we just can’t seem to get ourselves to do them… You know what they are….I sure know what mine are…

If you are like me, (and if you are on this list, you
probably are at least in part!) – you know
that something in you is putting up a barrier.

But, what is it? WHAT IS IT?

…….I’m about to tell you – but first,
I want to introduce you to two dear, dear friends
and colleagues – Judith and Jim – both psychotherapists
and best selling authors as well as leaders of what is coming to
be known as Heart Based Marketing. These two are the real deal.
I know. They’ve helped me more than perhaps they even know.
And, now, I want to share their gift with all of you.

We’re in the middle of The Midlife Makeover and I know that
some of you were finding it a challenge to come to ALL the sessions.
I hadn’t intended to do this – -but, because
THIS session is so important, I want to give ALL of you
the opportunity to attend. In fact, I even want you to have
the recording so you can get the most from it…

http://www.tinyurl.com/JulyJJ09

The call is all about what Judith and Jim have come to label:
The Fear of Being Fabulous™

And there’s not one person alive on this planet who’s not
been held back by it.

If you are still reading, you were drawn to this very experience .

It’s time to overcome your fear of being fabulous
and live the life you know is there deep inside.

IT”S TIME NOW…
. Not next week. Not next month. Not tomorrow . . .

NOW…. Give yourself this gift of true Freedom.
You’ll thank you, I know you will.

http://www.tinyurl.com/JulyJJ09

Are you longing to be fully free?
IT’S YOUR TIME NOW!

http://www.tinyurl.com/JulyJJ09

I’m ready to live more fully – JOIN ME!
Dr. Toni