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Follow Your SOUL to Avoid Midlife Crisis

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‘Tis the Set of the Sail — or — One Ship Sails East

Ella Wheeler Wilcox 1916

But to every mind there openeth,
A way, and way, and away,
A high soul climbs the highway,
And the low soul gropes the low,
And in between on the misty flats,
The rest drift to and fro.

But to every man there openeth,
A high way and a low,
And every mind decideth,
The way his soul shall go.

One ship sails East,
And another West,
By the self-same winds that blow,
‘Tis the set of the sails
And not the gales,
That tells the way we go.

Like the winds of the sea
Are the waves of time,
As we journey along through life,
‘Tis the set of the soul,
That determines the goal,
And not the calm or the strife.

Midlife Transition : 5 great books to read

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1. Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte

Jane Eyre was the first novel that really moved me and surprised me as a woman. I think this is true for a lot of female readers. Jane Eyre is told from the point of view of a 12-year-old girl in a dreadful situation. She’s an orphan who is adopted by a cruel bunch of people and sent to a horrible boarding school. So it’s about travail, but more importantly, it’s about coming through travail. Jane is a very brave, bold, upstanding girl who always seems able to defend herself, even in terrible situations.

What this book meant to me was that Continue reading “Midlife Transition : 5 great books to read” →

Radical Forgiveness – a story by Colin Tipping

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An extraordinarily inspiring and illuminating story from Colin Tipping’s “Radical Forgiveness” book and website…

By Colin Tipping

As soon as I saw my sister at the Airport, I knew something was wrong. I could see she was in pain.

Jill had flown from England to the United States with my brother John, who was stopping in on his way home to Australia. Jill chose to accompany him so she too could visit my wife, JoAnna, and I for a couple of weeks.
As soon as we got into the car to head north to our home, Jill said, “Colin, Jeff and I might be splitting up.”

This surprised me. I had always thought she and Jeff were happy in their six-year-old marriage. Both had been married before, but this relationship had seemed strong.

“What’s going on?” I asked. Continue reading “Radical Forgiveness – a story by Colin Tipping” →

Peter Drucker – 10 Principles for Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life

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Ten Principles for Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life
by Peter F. Drucker as reported by Bob Buford, author of Finishing Well

Thousands of successful business people reach middle age—and get the surprise of their life. They look around and instead of savoring their success, they wonder what it all means. While their and grandparents expected to live only about fifty years, these men and women realize they have a whole “second life” ahead of them. But what should they
do with it? Most have little idea. To research his new book, Finishing Well:
What People Who REALLY Live Do Differently, author Bob Buford
interviewed 120 highly successful people who are redefining what it means to be 50 and beyond. He specifically focused on what they are doing to find meaning in this “second life.”

In this first of an eight-part series adapted from the book, management guru Peter Drucker—author of 35 books, Presidential Medal of Freedom winner, and still a leading voice in the business
world—offers ten principles for finding significance in the second half of life. Continue reading “Peter Drucker – 10 Principles for Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life” →