Permit me to think out loud here because today I feel confused. EEKS – aren’t I the one who always talks about clarity? Well, I’m re-reading a book that I read many years ago called, Your Money or Your Life and it is helping me to highlight a major belief I have that ‘enough is enough’. For years now, I’ve been following the success gurus who talk about being a millionaire. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against money – far from it – but, I wonder if everyone is really called to have the same thing. I’m finding so many midlife women that I coach are simplifying their lives rather than attempting to accumulate more. I think it goes along with Carl Jung’s ideas about the growth of interiority during our midlife transitions.
I’m an advocate of using Allowing rather than Making things happen (Yes, I love the works of Abraham and Esther-Hicks!) – as well as the message in Wayne Dyer’s book on Inspiration. There truly is a difference between inspiration (allowing) and Motivation (making) things happen. Somewhere in between is a balance.
I’m also doing the program by Mark Joyner called Simpleology and he is Very clear on our need to set specific goals. I GET what he is saying and it makes sense. I clearly know that the Law of Attraction is not about visualizing without action and I know that what we focus on increases.
So, I continue to ponder – how much is enough? and when are goals important and when is it important to ALLOW the flow?
I’d love to hear your comments.
How much is enough?
Enough for what? Enough for a subsistence level of life? Enough to just get by? We think: ‘If I have more than enough, then I’m greedy, I’m wasteful, and I’m preventing someone else from having their needs met. They are going to suffer because I took what was rightfully theirs. By having more than enough, therefore, I make others suffer, and that makes me a bad person. I want to be a good person, so I better not get more than enough in my life. It’s better to get too little and suffer, instead of getting too much and making others suffer.’ This is scarcity thinking.
Perhaps better questions would be: How can I contribute to others? How can I help people achieve their goals in life? How can I empower other people to become abundantly happy?
The Universe is abundant. We are children of the Universe. It is our nature to live abundant lives. Abundant in our feelings of love for our creator, our partner, children, family, and humanity. Abundant in physical health and fitness. Abundant with sources of intellectual stimulation and challenges. Abundant with feelings of gratitude for the gift of life. It is our nature to be overflowing with feelings of peace, love, and joy.
And yet, when it comes to money…‘How much is enough?’ How would it feel to be able to help a loved one with an insurmountable problem that they have, by throwing money at it? (Yes, get their permission first!) How would it feel to know that you are providing jobs and paychecks to people, thereby contributing to their enjoyment of life? The only way to be able to help others when they need it, is for you to have it before it is needed. Whatever it is. Anyone who owns a truck knows this!
Money is just an indicator of how much you have helped other people. Is Bill Gates wealthy because he is ripping everyone off who buys from him and works for him? Or is he wealthy because he is provides jobs, products, and services for the world on a massive scale?
You can be rich in your relationships, rich with health and vitality, rich with empowering emotions, rich with contribution and creative solutions. All thoughts of ‘enough’ will wash away when you are in this flow of life, when you concentrate on giving, not receiving. Naturally you will start receiving more, so that you will have more to give! IMHO