How to Change Your Life

AGAIN AND AGAIN

I Bring Myself To Love Again and Again

If you’ve ever felt like a failure at love, you know that love doesn’t give up beckoning. It wants you. It wants you to change your mind about yourself and about love.

It doesn’t matter how many times you’ve failed at love. It doesn’t matter. LOVE OFFERS YOU AN OPEN INVITATION TO VISIT AND GET TO KNOW ALL THAT LOVE MIGHT YIELD. All you need do is come to love again, opening to learn beyond the barren fields of your earlier days.

It isn’t easy to come to love again, and again. Yet, so many of us must because we never learned to open to love’s calling. Instead, we learned to pull away. Just as love gave it’s heart to us, we pulled away in fear of being loved. Yet, once again alone, we felt the pull of love again, to come again to love. Yes, come again. Love is waiting for you. Just hold out your hand. Love is waiting for you. Come again.

Come, come, whoever you are,
Ours is not a caravan of despair.
Come even if you have broken your vow a hundred times
Come, come again, come.
Rumi

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A long time ago someone gave me great advice. They said, “Look back rather than ahead when you want to see what you have accomplished. If you want to know how to change your life, it can’t be because you are looking ahead and feeling like something is missing. Midlife is a pivotal time in a woman’s life.  It’s an opportunity to say, “I’ve come a long way. and give yourself a pat on the back – wherever you might be.”  The mere fact that you want to learn how to change your life, means you are ready for something new.  It doesn’t matter where you have been, you are here today to tell it, and that’s a victory.

It’s hard to measure progress when you are always looking at how far you still have to go Adapt the spiritual truth that ‘there is no where to get to and you’ll never get it done.’  I have found that to be one of the most powerful messages of my life.

Most of us spend so much time focusing on what we don’t yet have that we fail to appreciate all that we do. Midlife is a wonderful opportunity to reflect on all the Good that has been in our lives and to see which of the things we want to keep and which we want to release. This could be people, beliefs or things.

Focus on your assets and abilities and not what you are calling your flaws.

I used to think I needed to be good at everything and berated myself for the things I didn’t do well. One Midlife message I give myself continually is – if you don’t like it, don’t do it – find someone who does and hire them.

The principle that “What we focus on increases” applies particularly to our emphasis on what’s not up to our standards in our own character. I never met anyone who changed by being corrected. Praising good behavior yields more good behavior. It’s true with children. It’s even more true with ourselves.

Make a scrapbook of your life – and write what you appreciate about each year that has passed.

A few years ago, I did a year long workshop where one of the assignments was to make a book of our lives. We were asked to put at least one picture for each year, and where we didn’t have real pictures, to put something from a magazine that represented who we were at that time. Then, we were told to list the people who had been part of our lives and all the events that took place that we now considered significant.

I went all the way out with this project – creating a scrapbook filled with stickers and stencils and beautifully colored papers. I never thought of myself as an artist, but this book is something I will treasure as much as any work of art.

I called in family to help

I shared parts of my life that I had never shared

I discovered things about myself and about my beliefs.

Make a decision about what you want to throw away and what you want to keep.

Years ago, when I was moving from California to Florida, a good friend shared some advice that helped me let go and move on.  With each item I wanted to pack she’d ask, “Is this who you are today?” And, if my answer was no, we either tossed it or gave it away.  That goes for people and places as well as for things.  When we let go of what no longer serves us, we make room for the new.

I have lots of experience with this and lots more spiritual tips that have supported me in the many changes I have made in my life.  I’d love to share some of them with you so you too can learn how to change your life. Join me now for a FREE bi-weekly newsletter on Midlife by going now to www.reinventmidlife.com  and then I hope to be hearing your ideas on my blog as well.

The Teller of Life
A middle-aged man walked into a bank, he approached the teller and asked, “Will you cash this check?”
The teller looked at the check and said, “Well sure, I can cash the check, just put your name on the back of it, hand it to me, and I will give you the money.”
The man stumbled back and said, “Whoa, wait a minute! I don’t want to put my name on the back of that check and hand it to you. You’ll be holding my check with my name on it and you might decide not to give me the money.”

“Well Sir,” said the teller, “How it works is this; you have to put your name on the back of the check before I can give you the money, that’s banking policy.”
“I understand that,” the man replied, “But I want you to understand how I feel. It makes me very nervous to think that you’ll be holding my check and you might decide not to give me the money.”

“Sir, I will give you the money, but you have to go along with banking policy,” The teller said.
The man argued with the teller. Back and forth they went. Finally the frustrated teller replied, “I’m sorry, I am not going to be able to help you, please leave.”
The man left, feeling angered about his failure to get his money.

He walked to another bank, went through the same routine, aggravating another teller, and again was refused service.

The man traveled to a third bank. Again, he refused to sign his name on the check before receiving his money from the bank.

Again, the man argued with the young teller, until finally the miffed teller reached the end of his rope. He reached under the teller’s cage, pulled out a rubber baseball bat, whacked the man on the head and commanded, “Sign the darn check!”
Stunned, the man looked at the teller. The man then picked up the pen, signed the back of the check, and handed it over to the teller. Cordially, the teller handed the man his money.

Money in hand, the man returned to the first bank, walked up to that first teller and he said, “Look! Down the street I got my money.”

“Yeah, but I bet even down the street you had to put your name on the back of that check before you got the money,” the teller replied.

“Well yeah I did,” the man said, “But you see, no one ever quite explained it the way they did.”
The Teller of Life
Factor 1: Are You Harnessing The Law of Specificity?

We can have any life we want, but we must first know what it is we want. The Law of Specificity states; to activate our dreams we must be clear about the life we’re designing. It does us no good to write a check to Life that says, “Dear Life, I want a good life. Please give me a happy life.”
Life does not know how to cash that check any more a builder knows how to build a “good house” or a “happy house”.

If you asked a contractor to build you a really happy house, the contractor would look at you and say, “You’ve got to tell me what you mean by happy house. You’ve got to describe it. You’ve got to give me a picture called a blueprint.”
Life is delighted to cash any check you wish. Step one is deciding what you really want, and designing it with crystal clarity; create your blueprint.

This is the law of specificity.
Factor 2: Will You Sign Your Name To It?

When building our dreams, we’ll often go to the teller of Life and ask, “Will you please give me what I want?

In essence, Life says,” ok I’ll give you your dream, but first put your name on the check.” Put yourself-your whole self-into a vibrational match with what it is you say you want.
You must commit to your dream. Put your name to the dream and the doors of creation will open.
Many of us reply, “Whoa, wait a minute! I don’t want to put my name on the dream–I don’t want to put my full self in. What if it doesn’t work out?”

“I want to know that it’s all going to be okay. I want to know where all the pieces are going to come from. I want to know exactly how it’s going to happen. I want to have it, and then I’ll put my full self in. Then I’ll put my name to it.”

Every one of us has been given a sacred name. That name is “I am”.

Our sacred name, the name that we lay on the altar of the Universe, that alter of I AM–whether it’s I am limited, or I am free, whether it’s I can, or I can’t–is shaped in the thinking chamber within us.

Every one of us lives in this divine Presence, Power, and Thinking Substance that shapes itself through our thinking. When we sign our name to the life we want–thus getting in harmony with our dream–we send a magnetic signal to the Universe at which point a strange and magnificent thing begins to happen.
Through the harmonic Laws of Vibration and Attraction; resources, people, and circumstances begin to show up in our life. The law begins fulfilling the dream we’ve designed. As sure as a teller will give you your money after you’ve signed the check, the Universe will give you your dream, once you’ve put your name to it.

The two questions I have for you are…
1. What life do you really want?

2. Are you willing to sign your name to it?

Dream Big Today!

Mary Morrissey

 

Water is the perfect non-resistant element.

We can see where it has worn away even the hardest rock. You can go to the Grand Canyon and be stunned and amazed by the power of non-resistance over time.

We have also seen water sweep everything before it in torrential outburst, bridges, buildings, trees; nothing can withstand its force.

Yet, note how the great river begins. It starts as a little stream high up in the mountains, and it’s usually very crooked in the beginning.

The little stream just runs over the boulders or the fallen tree, it doesn’t stop and wait for its energy or its force to build up so it can push the obstacle out of its path. It’s not interested so much in the boulder or the tree as it is about creating or getting where its current pulls it.

You and I can use this to understand how we can be non-resistant. Flow is one of the great Laws of Life.

To Your Ease and Grace,
Mary Morrissey