The Midlife Transition can be a wonderful time to establish new beliefs and get rid of the ones that have not served you. If you need help in getting clear, you might want to take the following quiz.. (Don’t worry, there are no scores…)
Is this you speaking?:
I’m in the midlife transition and I have something that is bothering me.
I am willing to look at it and identify it. What is it? What just happened?
_________________________________________________
For example, someone may be playfully teasing you, but you perceive that they are trying to “get at you.” You may even get angry at them and tell them to stop “pushing you around.” Therefore, you have a belief, or a perception, that people push you around, that you will be attacked, put down, or made to feel stupid, less than, or inferior in some way. This means that YOU may believe, or have a perception that (a) people can and will do something bad to you, and (b) that you are “not good enough,” that you are less than in some way. Therefore your response and feelings will come from what you believe. Check out what it is that you believe.
Now you fill out this sentence…
This is how I interpreted, or perceived, what just happened:
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
I felt: (angry, sad, happy, fearful)
_____________________________________________________
After you identify what is bothering you, how you “perceived” what happened, and what emotion went along with that perception, ask yourself this question: Is this perception coming from a place of Truth, or is it coming from Fear? Is there Fear somewhere behind all of this?
Truth ______________________________________
Fear _______________________________________
What am I afraid of? What do I think is happening or going to happen here?
_____________________________________________________
Answer this:
When did I decide to believe this? What do I believe about myself? what happened in my life before the midlife transition that I decided life was just this way?
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
Answer this:
Did anyone make me believe this, or did I decide to believe it in my own mind?
_____________________________________________________
If I believe in this, will I continue to make it keep happening?
Yes _________ No _________
Could I have made a different decision about life, or myself?
__________________________________________________
I could have seen it this way:
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
or, this way
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
Fill out the following sentences…
When I think this way, or believe this (for example, that people will push me around, or try to get at me), I create this kind of experience:
I ____________________________________________________
I ____________________________________________________
I ____________________________________________________
I ____________________________________________________
And then I feel:
_____________________________________________________
Now you see what your perceptions are, and what strategies you created to cope with what you believe is going on. Strategies are always created to try to keep you safe in some way.
You also see what you create by believing this way. And you see what you create from holding onto a perception, which creates a certain emotion. If you have sadness stored in you, you will continue to see life’s experiences as sad, etc., and to create more sad experiences.
Now, you say to yourself,
“After this midlife transition, Do I still want to keep on reacting this way?”
“Do I really believe that (for example) people are out to get me?”
“Do I really believe that I am stupid?
Yes ________ No ________
Ask…
Does believing this help or hurt my life?
Helps ________ Hurts________
If everything is a mirror for me, a mirror for what’s going on inside of me, the beliefs and issues I have about myself and life, then what this experience is showing me about myself is:
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
Then ask yourself, “What new belief would I rather have?”
Write it here…
I would rather believe that
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
What emotion will I feel if I believe this new belief? How will I feel?
_____________________________________________________
Am I willing to experience that emotion?
_____________________________________________________
In order to believe this, and feel this, I will align myself with a Higher Truth. I will see and understand that :
I AM
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
That Life is
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
That Other People
_____________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
When I believe this way, I feel
_____________________________________________________
I am now WILLING, READY, and I fully ALLOW this old belief,
_____________________________________________________,
to be completely and easily and 100% released.
In its place, I am willing and allow myself to have this perception
_____________________________________________________
and I believe that ______________________________________.
I now allow myself to feel _______________________________ .
I accept this new belief and have made a new choice for myself and my life. I give thanks.
I accept that this midlife transition will bring me closer to being my authentic self.
Excerpt from http://www.trans4mind.com/
