Before you can begin anything new, you have to complete the old. The Past – what we did, didn’t do, should have done, did poorly or wrongly – is always with us in some way. You are not your past, yet may still be living as if you are. One of the main messages from all Religious traditions is to LIVE IN THE NOW. One way to begin to do that is by completing the past.
I once heard that there are only 3 things which really hold a person back in life; unmet needs, insufficient distinctions/language and being incomplete. Being complete at all times is a skill worth mastering.
“We spend our lives doing what we are incomplete about.”
What are some of the reasons to do Spring/Fall Cleaning or to complete?
Lack of completion in any area of our lives takes ENERGY away from us … it lowers our self-esteem to have projects unfinished. Incompletions dominate our lives until they are known and resolved.
People often choose profession based on where they suffered in life (therapists, healers, financial planners, Ministers?? Hmmm )… Who knows… We all spend some part of our day engaged in activities which no longer have any bearing whatsoever on what we want to do.
Most people survive these incompletions, but in every instance, there is a cost. Because the natural state of human being is BALANCE, WHOLENESS and INTEGRITY, we lose power and energy when we are incomplete.
Proof? Virtually everyone feels much better after having cleaned out a closet, or when a course is complete or a major project is finished.
First we need to complete our PAST – if that’s not already done…but, then we need to master the skill of being complete about everything as it occurs..
That would give us virtually boundless and healthy energy. We wouldn’t have our juice sucked up by the known and unknown stuff to which we have become accustomed.
Let’s be real here – we’ll always have some Incompletions in our lives – and rarely is someone fully complete about past trauma such as losing a loved one or even some childhood damage. The point here, though, is that you can substantially enhance your well-being energy level and effectiveness by being more complete.
I’m certainly not talking about being manic about being complete all the time. Life is MESSY by nature. Go with the flow, but always get complete about the things or situations that you know will bug you later. Don’t step over anything.
WHAT ARE INCOMPLETIONS? And where do they come from? Incompletions are events which have occurred in our lives that passed by without our having done what was necessary to be complete (as in satisfied, handled fully, responded powerfully) about.
Examples are as follows:
Not taking out the trash when it was full yesterday.
Not stopping someone from saying things that hurt you
Doing something you considered wrong or not right
Not going for a goal that you really wanted but were afraid to go for.
There are six signs of being incomplete:
REGRET, REMORSE; SHAME; ANGER; DENIAL and continuing SADNESS.
What is a recurring problem you have individually?
Collectively? Why does it keep coming back?
What is the COMPLETE WORK you could do to have it complete forever. Do it!! PLEASE.. NOW. IT is costing too much.
