Generated by All in One SEO v4.9.4.1, this is an llms.txt file, used by LLMs to index the site. # ToniLaMotta.com Paths to Transformation ## Sitemaps - [XML Sitemap](https://tonilamotta.com/sitemap.xml): Contains all public & indexable URLs for this website. ## Posts - [BLOG](https://tonilamotta.com/blog/) - [Enneagram 6 and the Courage to Trust Yourself](https://tonilamotta.com/enneagram-6-and-the-courage-to-trust-yourself/) - If you are an Enneagram Type 6, you already know what it feels like to live with a strong inner radar. You sense what might go wrong.You anticipate risks.You look for what’s reliable. And in many ways, this is a gift. But for Type 6, the deeper journey isn’t just learning how to stay safe… - [Enneagram 6 and the Fear of Getting It Wrong: How to Trust Yourself Again](https://tonilamotta.com/enneagram-6-and-the-fear-of-getting-it-wrong-how-to-trust-yourself-again/) - If you’re an Enneagram 6, you probably know this feeling well: That subtle (or not-so-subtle) sense that something could go wrong…That you need to think it through one more time…That you want to make the right decision — and you’re terrified of making the wrong one. Type 6 minds are brilliant.They are designed for foresight, - [Fear vs Intuition for Enneagram Type 6: How to Tell the Difference](https://tonilamotta.com/fear-vs-intuition-for-enneagram-type-6-how-to-tell-the-difference/) - Learning to trust your Inner Compass when fear is loud If you are an Enneagram Type 6, you may have asked yourself: How do I know if this is my intuition… or just my anxiety?How can I trust myself when my mind is full of doubt?What if I make the wrong decision? This is one - [Fear vs Intuition for Type 6: How to Tell the Difference](https://tonilamotta.com/fear-vs-intuition-for-type-6-how-to-tell-the-difference/) - One of the most common questions Type 6s ask is: How do I know if it’s my intuition… or just my anxiety? Such an important question. Because Type 6 has a powerful inner radar. But when fear is loud, that radar can feel distorted. Let’s clarify. Fear Is Urgent. Intuition Is Calm. Fear says: • - [How to Calm Anxiety as an Enneagram Type 6](https://tonilamotta.com/how-to-calm-anxiety-as-an-enneagram-type-6/) - Type 6 anxiety is not random. It is often the result of a deeply caring mind trying to prevent pain. But you deserve peace. Here are three anchors. 1. Name the Fear Loop Type 6 anxiety grows when unnamed. Simply say: “This is my fear mind trying to protect me.” That alone creates space. 2. - [Why Enneagram 6s Struggle to Trust Themselves](https://tonilamotta.com/why-enneagram-6s-struggle-to-trust-themselves/) - And how self-trust becomes your spiritual homecoming If you are an Enneagram Type 6, you may have spent years wondering: Why don’t I trust myself?Why do I second-guess everything?Why does my mind keep searching for certainty that never comes? Let me offer you something right away: You are not broken.You are not weak.And you are - [The Type 6 Inner Compass: Learning to Trust Your Gut](https://tonilamotta.com/the-type-6-inner-compass-learning-to-trust-your-gut/) - Type 6s often believe they don’t have inner guidance. But the truth is: You do. It’s just been interrupted by fear. Your Inner Compass is not a loud voice. It is a quiet knowing. It speaks through: steadiness resonance simplicity peace beneath uncertainty The journey is learning to listen again. Micro-Practice: One Truth Ask yourself - [Moving from Fear to Faith: The Spiritual Path of Enneagram 6](https://tonilamotta.com/moving-from-fear-to-faith-the-spiritual-path-of-enneagram-6/) - The Holy Idea of Type 6 is Faith. Not faith as belief… Faith as inner trust in reality. Type 6 is here to learn: Life is not against you Guidance is real Support is already present You can meet uncertainty with courage Fear is not your enemy. Fear is the place you are invited to - [Threshold Choir - preparing for Death](https://tonilamotta.com/threshold-choir-preparing-for-death/) - [From Pacific Integral - my thoughts exactly](https://tonilamotta.com/from-pacific-integral-my-thoughts-exactly/) - Hey Friends, I was walking this morning and found myself reflecting about how often we can relate to ourselves like a “project.” How often I hear, “I have been working on this for so long and it is still coming up.” Even when I find deeper acceptance in myself, there can still be a subtle - [The Negativity Bias](https://tonilamotta.com/the-negativity-bias/) - How Your Brain Tricks You and How to Take Back Control by Marie Nameth You and I were born with a brain that is set to “anxious” as the primary response to something that’s new or different, or people who have features that show they are different from our “clan.” The propensity for treating these - [5 Common Fears About Growing Older](https://tonilamotta.com/4940-2/) - We have a lot to look forward to as we age. Posted August 9, 2023 | Reviewed by Hara Estroff Marano Key points Talk to your friends, family, or a therapist. Get involved in activities that you enjoy and that connect you with others. Learn as much as you can about aging and the challenges and opportunities that - [Self-Paced Course on Embracing the Aging Process](https://tonilamotta.com/self-paced-course-on-embracing-the-aging-process/) - Embracing the Aging Process - A Path to Transformation Are you struggling with the media's message that we should be anti-aging? Do you have fears about the aging process and all you are giving up in life? Are you ready to embrace aging as a time of spiritual awakening? Your mission, should you choose to - [Why Growing Older Is Awesome](https://tonilamotta.com/why-growing-older-is-awesome/) - Why Growing Older Is Awesome, According to the SilverSneakers Community By Nancy Fitzgerald | January 27, 2025 You have more power over aging than you think. Here’s the proof. Aches and pains, sorrows and losses—growing older isn’t always a laugh a minute. But cruising past retirement age comes with a lot of benefits too. Besides, does anybody - [Interview on Conscious Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/interview-on-conscious-aging/) - Interview with Barbie Gummin on TLC5 - [Myths of Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/myth-of-aging/) - Facts on Aging Quiz Revised by Linda Breytspraak1, Ph.D., and Lynn Badura, B.A., Grad. Gerontology Certificate Gerontology Program University of Missouri-Kansas City There have been a number of versions of quizzes on aging, patterned after Erdman Palmore’s landmark “Facts on Aging Quiz” that appeared in two issues of The Gerontologist (1977; 1981). The initial version - [What does Aging Mean for Women?](https://tonilamotta.com/what-does-aging-mean-for-women/) - Gayle King moderates a Milken Institute panel on rethinking what aging means for women By ELLEN OLIVIERMAY 01, 2019 | 3:05 PM Appropriately enough, Katy Perry’s song “Roar” could be heard over the speaker system as guests filed out of the panel discussion “Coming of Age: Women Rise to the Top” at the Milken Institute Global Conference at the Beverly - [Lewis Richmond on Belonging](https://tonilamotta.com/lewis-richmond-from-the-huffington-post-on-belonging/) - Human beings of every age need to belong. This is a need so basic that we rarely think about it unless loneliness brings it to our attention. As children, most of us safely belong to our families. Part of growing into adulthood is widening and deepening our various circles of belonging. We belong to our - [Aging With Consciousness](https://tonilamotta.com/aging-with-consciousness-3/) - By Rose Caiola “The key to growth is the introduction of higher dimensions of consciousness.” — Lao Tzu As we get older, do we fear birthdays more? Perhaps it’s when we reach a certain milestone — maybe age 50, 60 or 70 — that a sense of our own mortality really hits. And, let’s face - [Dr. Joyce: Almost a Million Twitter Followers and 71 Years Young](https://tonilamotta.com/dr-joyce-almost-a-million-twitter-followers-and-71-years-young-3/) - Winnie Sun Opinions expressed by Forbes Contributors are their own. An interview with Dr. Joyce Knudsen Dr. Joyce Knudsen, PhD, is an internationally published author of ten books, a successful entrepreneur, the CEO of The ImageMaker, Inc. Communications Group, and a a social media maven with a massive social network that is closing in on - [Spirituality of Aging e-book available now](https://tonilamotta.com/spirituality-of-aging-e-book-available-now/) - So many people in midlife and beyond have a fear of aging. Society hasn't helped this. Ageism is still a factor in our experience and advertisers keep telling us we need to be using products that are anti-aging. I don't know about you but I'm NOT ANTI - aging.... In fact, every day I experience - [The Process of Aging and the Stages of Spiritual Development](https://tonilamotta.com/the-process-of-aging-and-the-stages-of-spiritual-development/) - Many years ago I learned about stages of spiritual development. I've since discovered that many different spiritual teachers and teachings have different names for what seems quite similar to me. Because I spend so much time thinking about the process of aging and the spirituality of aging, I began to wonder if we experience this - [Embracing the Aging Body](https://tonilamotta.com/embracing-the-aging-body-2/) - Is This My Body? © 2011 Brenda Dineen | Reprinting permission with credit to author I first injured my knee in 2003. I was jogging on a treadmill and noticed pain in my knee. The pain didn’t go away that night, but I went back to the gym the next day. “What me? I don’t - [The Traits of the Truly Wealthy](https://tonilamotta.com/traits-truly-wealthy/) - Fortunately, many people in this stage of life have developed qualities that, to my mind, constitute true wealth. And though there is no guarantee that these traits will ensure a comfortable life ahead, forestall physical decline or dispel the health and long-term care crises that loom, there is little doubt that they can help those who - [80 Ways to Feel Young and Stay Sharp](https://tonilamotta.com/80-ways-to-feel-young-and-stay-sharp/) - 80 Ways to Feel Young and Stay Sharp Feel young stay sharp Aging is a natural, inevitable part of life. As we grow older, it becomes easy to look back wistfully on years past and wish we could reclaim our youth. While your 20?s may be the peak of physical capability and mental clarity you - [The hard truth about getting old](https://tonilamotta.com/the-hard-truth-about-getting-old/) - Sixty isn't the new 40, and 80 isn't the new 60. I know it. You know it. So why do we buy into it? By Lillian B. Rubin The author as a young woman and as she appears now I don’t know about you, but the chirpy tales that dominate the public discussion about - [5 Myths About Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/5-myths-about-aging/) - Do you think health complaints are just part of getting older? Our experts bust that myth and help you live better. By Hallie Levine Lost sleep, low energy, lagging libido. Those are among the health problems that we often consider a given as we get older. But new research shows they don’t always have to - [The Subtle Ageism We Commit Against Ourselves(and How to Shift Our Attitudes)](https://tonilamotta.com/the-subtle-ageism-we-commit-against-ourselvesand-how-to-shift-our-attitudes/) - It’s no surprise that we’re steeped in a culture that values youth over maturity. Negative stereotypes about aging are everywhere. We’re taught from birth to be anti-aging. Even when you know ageist attitudes are ridiculous, the constant bombardment of negative messaging can allow subtle forms of ageism to seep in and affect us. When that - [quotes on getting older](https://tonilamotta.com/quotes-on-getting-older/) - Growing older is one of the most pervasive preoccupations of humankind. The passing of time is, after all, an inescapable part of the human condition. And aging, like love, is one of the most common themes in literature, be it the calm of poet Robert Brownings’ “Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be,” - [“Aging as a Spiritual Journey”](https://tonilamotta.com/aging-as-a-spiritual-journey/) - Ron Cebik from Huffington Post Psychotherapist & Teacher It happens. Yes, we all come to the moment we realize we are growing old. It just happens differently for each of us. If we picture our life span as a trajectory with an ascendency, peak, and descent, somewhere after the peak, we notice changes and events - [Aging and Spirituality](https://tonilamotta.com/4445-2/) - AGING AND SPIRITUALITY: After four years of research, these 12 keys were identified as the foundational principles of aging and spirituality letting us open-up to the special grace of our mature years, and taste life in abundance. Transform your attitudes about aging, Seek love everywhere, Delight in connectedness, Live in the "Now" Accept your true - [Facing 70 - Ageing Consciously](https://tonilamotta.com/facing-70-ageing-consciously/) - Sixty-nine hit me like a tornado, fast-moving and whipping up emotional debris. Small things. Cataracts and recommended surgery. “What if I can’t read, can’t drive and can’t work?” I catastrophized the possibilities in my mind as I reflected on my four decades as a public radio and print journalist. 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(from Next Avenue)](https://tonilamotta.com/can-we-talk-about-death-from-next-avenue/) - Credit: Elle Moulin for Next Avenue Katie Couric has regrets. Even to this day. When the former TV news anchor spoke at Georgetown University at an event titled “The Healing Power of Communication” in August, 2019, she said she wished she had talked more to her late husband, Jay Monahan, about his impending death before he succumbed - [7 Insights on Ageism That May Surprise You](https://tonilamotta.com/7-insights-on-ageism-that-may-surprise-you/) - What resonated with a writer who attended The Ageist conference By Diane Johnson FlynnCEO I had the opportunity to speak at The Ageist conference in Los Angeles recently, a first-of-its-kind symposium to examine the economic and social impact of the modern 50+ demographic. What a dynamic, energized, well-connected community of people who want to change - [Aging and the Hunza People of North Pakistan](https://tonilamotta.com/dissolving-the-myths-of-aging/) - Pat Carrington shares some information about an amazing society where “growing older” was very different from what most of us know today. “Wisdom” actually defined “age” for these people! Later (in the program itself) she leads you in tapping exercises that can radically change your entire experience of growing older… Myth # 1 – The - [Dying Deliciously](https://tonilamotta.com/dying-deliciously-2/) - “The hills are alive with the sound of mommy!“ That is the opening sentence my sister wrote for our mother’s obituary. The day before Thanksgiving, 2014, our beloved friend and nurturer was diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer and given 5 months to live. I was doing my own dance with ovarian cancer for the - [Fear of Death](https://tonilamotta.com/fear-of-death/) - What Would You Do If You Did Not Fear Death? We are missing out on a precious opportunity for spiritual growth when we avoid confronting and contemplating what we call death. By Alison Rose Levy, Contributor Health, food, and environmental journalist; radio host, Progressive Radio Network A close colleague and mentor of mine passed away recently. - [Spirituality of Aging e-book available now](https://tonilamotta.com/1334-2/) - So many people in midlife and beyond have a fear of aging. Society hasn’t helped this. Ageism is still a factor in our experience and advertisers keep telling us we need to be using products that are anti-aging. I don’t know about you but I’m NOT ANTI – aging…. In fact, every day I experience - [Getting Clear](https://tonilamotta.com/getting-clear/) - Getting Clear The procedure to clear a negative or troubling belief.You may like to print this out first, then fill in the form: THE GETTING CLEAR WORKSHEET I have something that is bothering me. I am willing to look at it and identify it. What is it? What just happened? _________________________________________________ For example, someone - [Joan Ditzion on Ageism](https://tonilamotta.com/joan-ditzion-on-ageism/) - Feminist pioneer Joan Ditzion may be best known as one of the authors of "Our Bodies, Ourselves." After all, the seminal book has been a staple on the shelves of women around the world, ever since the publication of the first commercial edition in 1973. However, that was only the beginning of Ditzion's journey into - [Are you Anti-Aging? (excerpt from What You REALLY Want, Wants You book)](https://tonilamotta.com/are-you-anti-aging/) - It wasn’t until I reached midlife that I finally discovered that beauty was not an either-or issue. Others also struggle with this issue, as evidenced by the 2004 global effort that DOVE launched called the “Campaign for Real Beauty.” It was meant to act as a catalyst for widening the definition and discussion of beauty - [Signs You Might Be a Mystic](https://tonilamotta.com/3963-2/) - You may know one—or even be one yourself. By Samantha Vincenty Ask someone without a theology degree to picture a "mystic," and they might imagine a yogi meditating on a mountaintop, the whirling dervishes of Turkey, or a nun living a monastic life of fervent prayer. People slightly more familiar with the word may even be able to - [From Ram Dass - Still Here](https://tonilamotta.com/from-ram-dass-still-here/) - As our roles shift in older age, so does our sense of community, and feelings of isolation often accompany elder life. When I spoke about this to Thich Nhat Hanh, a Vietnamese Zen Master, he said that despite the information age and advances in technology, which allow us to communicate with each other so rapidly, - [Plastic Surgery (Thankfully) Is Under the Knife - Accepting oursleves in Midlife and Beyond!](https://tonilamotta.com/plastic-surgery-thankfully-is-under-the-knife-accepting-oursleves-in-midlife-and-beyond/) - By Margaret Morganroth Gullette Anti-ageism commentator Margaret Morganroth Gullette gives thanks for some good news about plastic surgery. Procedures are down, outcry is up and few American women ever considered getting themselves "done" anyway.Editor's Note: The following is a commentary. The opinions expressed are those of the author and not necessarily the views of Women's - [Jane Fonda on Oprah on the Life Review process](https://tonilamotta.com/jane-fonda-on-oprah-on-the-life-review-process/) - Click these words to - Take a look at a video of Jane Fonda on Oprah where she talks about doing a Life Review I saw Jane Fonda's interview on Oprah and I wanted to share it. And, recently I read her new book, Prime Time where she talks more about doing a Life Review - [Myths About Our Ageing Brains from AARP](https://tonilamotta.com/myths-about-our-ageing-brains-from-aarp/) - There is a lot of nonsense promulgated about ageing brains. Yes, we find oursevles forgetting names or losing too much time looking for our reading glasses but most beliefs about cognitive decline in old age are myths. A few weeks ago, the Global Council on Brain Health (GCBH) which is an independent collaborative of scientists, - [Ten Practical Guidelines for Conscious Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/ten-practical-guidelines-for-conscious-aging/) - POSTED ON JULY 20, 2024 BY CYNTHIA BOURGEAULT As the humiliating debate around whether Joe Biden has “aged out” of the presidency continues to play front and center on the American political scene, it becomes more and more clear that America is basically repelled by the aging process and largely clueless about the deeper spiritual possibilities that may lie - [Ram Dass - aging and the Awakening of Potential Change](https://tonilamotta.com/ram-dass-aging-and-the-awakening-of-potential-change/) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=YDwXKgtP9iE - [Misconceptions of Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/4578-2/) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQRLbrAJoGs - [Shadow Work](https://tonilamotta.com/shadow-work-2/) - Is Your Shadow Showing? Face It, Embrace It, Integrate It! The Quantum Living Training weaves together the latest research emerging from neurobiology, developmental psychology, and quantum science with the wisdom of the world’s mystical traditions to offer a powerful path to personal evolution. Quantum Living “aware-apy” exercises and techniques are designed to reduce anxiety, foster - [Ebook on Spirituality of Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/spiritualityofaging/) - Spiritualityofaging - [Intensive Journal](https://tonilamotta.com/intensive-journal/) - By Ellery Littleton This article presents a summary of some of the basic ideas of Ira Progoff’s “Intensive Journal Process,” and includes a very brief outline of one of his extensive journal-writing exercise cycles: 12 Entries. Ellery writes: “The first Intensive Journaling workshop I attended in 1981, was two weeks long, 9 to 5, five - [5 Anti-Aging Myths We Need to Stop Believing](https://tonilamotta.com/6-aging-myths-we-need-to-stop-believing-2/) - You know that expensive products aren't necessarily better than drugstore finds and that winter weather doesn't mean you can skip sunscreen (right?), but these myths belong in the "busted" category, too. By Emma Haak Photo: adamkaz/Getty Images Myth #1—Wrinkles are the biggest giveaways of age.The Truth—Lines do play a role, but there's another - [Inspiration for Conscious Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/inspiration-for-conscious-aging/) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bsd4GTn4vjo&t=106s - [EFT Tapping for fears about AGING](https://tonilamotta.com/eft-tapping-for-fears-about-aging/) - https://youtu.be/DiPajoux94s - [Song for Life Review](https://tonilamotta.com/song-for-life-review/) - The Learning Journey https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5IwUDHFGvm0 - [Turning Back the Clock](https://tonilamotta.com/turning-back-the-clock/) - As Bette Davis famously said, “Getting old ain’t no place for sissies.” And while I’m not quite a senior citizen myself just yet, I’m becoming ever more aware of my own aging journey and have recently faced some of my own age-related challenges. So I can appreciate Bette’s keen observation about aging. And I can - [Jane Fonda on TED](https://tonilamotta.com/jane-fonda-on-ted/) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E7yePfnLKCU - [Ripening with Age- Richard Rohr](https://tonilamotta.com/ripening-with-age-richard-rohr/) - September 18–September 23, 2022 Sunday Old age, as such, is almost a complete changing of gears and engines from the first half of our lives, and does not happen without many slow realizations, inner calmings, lots of inner resistance and denials, and eventual surrenders. All of them by God’s grace work with our ever-deepening sense - [Pro-Age Advertising](https://tonilamotta.com/pro-age-advertising/) - Selling the Idea of Pro-Aging Advertisements We should convince marketers to create ads that accurately reflect the character and value of older adults By Jeanette Leardi July 15, 2022 By now most of us are familiar with such classic advertisements as Wendy's "Where's the Beef?" or Life Alert's "I've Fallen and I Can't Get Up!", - [My Personal Midlife Reinvention](https://tonilamotta.com/check-out-a-sample-of-midlife-keynote/) - Here is a sample video created as an excerpt from my keynote address: "Midlife Re-Vision". It's a personal story of how I chose my college major. I think there will be some midlife themes you can all relate to. The video is about seven minutes long. Enjoy it NOW... Would love to hear your comments. - [Aging and Mystical Consciousness](https://tonilamotta.com/aging-and-mystical-consciousness/) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YFOXPnIOx3k&t=1402s - [BOOKS OF INTEREST](https://tonilamotta.com/books-of-interest/) - [Spiritual Coaching](https://tonilamotta.com/spiritual-coaching/) - [Finding Wisdom in the Arts as we Age](https://tonilamotta.com/finding-wisdom-in-the-arts-as-we-age/) - Strategies for cultivating creativity and brain sharpness in later years I didn’t set out to write another book. I began by pondering, as psychologists do, my current life stage at 60-plus chronological years. Time passes swiftly and change is inevitable. Perhaps it was simply a matter of shifting priorities or interests, but as I approached - [Spirit Speak](https://tonilamotta.com/spirit-speak/) - https://indd.adobe.com/embed/1c6855ee-766b-4fec-8e84-ba8a3d985a2c?startpage=1&allowFullscreen=true - [Shadow Work](https://tonilamotta.com/shadow-work/) - Shadow Work by Richard Rohr Making HolyTuesday, September 10, 2019 The shadow in and of itself is not the problem. The source of our disease and violence is separation from parts of ourselves, from each other, and from God. Mature religion is meant to re-ligio or re-ligament what our egos and survival instincts have put asunder, namely - [History of Journaling](https://tonilamotta.com/history-of-journaling/) - The desire to record details of our lives is as old as handwriting itself. Early diaries were mostly kept as public records. The modern diary has its origins in fifteenth-century Italy where diaries were used for accounting. Gradually, the focus of diaries shifted from that of recording public life to reflecting on the private one. - [Life Review](https://tonilamotta.com/life-review-2/) - One of the key tools of a conscious aging process is the life review. It's not something you do in one sitting! I have found it most useful to do at least a partial life review when my life is in transition. You will find that when you do a life review, two major things - [Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life](https://tonilamotta.com/finding-meaning-in-the-second-half-of-life/) - What does it really mean to be a grown up in today’s world? We assume that once we “get it together” with the right job, marry the right person, have children, and buy a home, all is settled and well. But adulthood presents varying levels of growth, and is rarely the respite of stability we - [Fear of Death](https://tonilamotta.com/fear-of-death-2/) - [Imagine - an awesome Meditation](https://tonilamotta.com/imagine-an-awesome-meditation/) - [“The Way We Were” is locked The Way We Were](https://tonilamotta.com/the-way-we-were-is-locked-the-way-we-were/) - The secret to aging gracefully Are these words familiar to you? “Memories, light the corners of my mindMisty watercolor memories of the way we were.Scattered pictures of the smiles we left behindsmiles we give to one anotherfor the way we were.Can it be that it was all so simple thenor has time rewritten every line?If - ["More Better" Syndrome](https://tonilamotta.com/more-better-syndrome/) - "More Better" Syndrome Most of us spend a good deal of our lives trying to fix ourselves as if we were broken or damaged goods. Did you ever notice how many people talk about WORKING on themselves? “This is what I’m working on right now.” People tell me this all the time. Deep down, I - [Prejudice – Does it block you in Midlife?](https://tonilamotta.com/prejudice-does-it-block-you-in-midlife/) - THE SITUATIONIn Washington , DC , at a Metro Station, on a cold January morning in 2007, this man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, approximately 2,000 people wentthrough the station, most of them on their way to work. After about 3 minutes, a middle-aged man noticed - [Gay Gaer Luce: Conscious Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/gay-gaer-luce-conscious-aging/) - [The Science of Older and Wiser](https://tonilamotta.com/the-science-of-older-and-wiser/) - From THE NEW YORK TIMES By PHYLLIS KORKKIMARCH 12, 2014 Since ancient times, the elusive concept of wisdom has figured prominently in philosophical and religious texts. The question remains compelling: What is wisdom, and how does it play out in individual lives? Most psychologists agree that if you define wisdom as maintaining positive well-being and - [How It is to be Old](https://tonilamotta.com/how-it-is-to-be-old/) - From Ronni Bennett in TIME GOES BY - How It is to Be Old Having fallen asleep with the television on a few nights ago, I woke a couple of hours later to the fragment of a sentence just before a commercial began: “...young people wondering how it is to be old.” Sleep for me - [“Lessons on Gratitude from Ram Dass” is locked Lessons on Gratitude from Ram Dass](https://tonilamotta.com/lessons-on-gratitude-from-ram-dass-is-locked-lessons-on-gratitude-from-ram-dass/) - One of the spiritual lessons I have found quite useful over the years is that there is a great deal of difference between pain and suffering. Pain is a sensation in the body or in our psychological bodies. 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It’s time to teach the world as well as ourselves to learn - [Integrative Health on Conscious Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/integrative-health-on-conscious-aging-2/) - « Conscious Aging February 16, 2011 by Integrative Health Have you ever wondered how you will like to age and have you ever imagined or even remotely thought about how you would like to die? I know these are not easy questions to answer but nevertheless are thought provoking because one day we will all - [Fighting ageism](https://tonilamotta.com/fighting-ageism-3/) - Geropsychologists are striving to stop negative age stereotypes and meet the growing mental health needs of older adults. By MELISSA DITTMANN Monitor Staff May 2003, Vol 34, No. 5 The number of Americans 60 and older is growing, but society still isn’t embracing the aging population, geropsychologists say. Whether battling “old geezer” stereotypes or trying - [71 Years Young - Aging Consciously](https://tonilamotta.com/71-years-young-aging-consciously/) - Dr. Joyce: Almost a Million Twitter Followers and 71 Years Young Winnie Sun , Opinions expressed by Forbes Contributors are their own. An interview with Dr. Joyce Knudsen Dr. Joyce Knudsen, PhD, is an internationally published author of ten books, a successful entrepreneur, the CEO of The ImageMaker, Inc. Communications Group, and a a social media - [Nine Practices for Conscious Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/nine-practices-for-conscious-aging/) - As I live into my own process of aging, my worldview has been informed by the depth and insight of many great teachers. These include masters from different wisdom traditions, health care practitioners, friends facing end of life, and researchers studying the transformative nature of death, dying, and beyond. For decades, the team at the - [Lessons on Gratitude from Ram Dass](https://tonilamotta.com/lessons-on-gratitude-from-ram-dass/) - One of the spiritual lessons I have found quite useful over the years is that there is a great deal of difference between pain and suffering. Pain is a sensation in the body or in our psychological bodies. Suffering comes only because of the way we choose to interpret the pain as something NOT GOOD - [Embracing the Aging Body](https://tonilamotta.com/embracing-the-aging-body/) - Is This My Body? © 2011 Brenda Dineen | Reprinting permission with credit to author I first injured my knee in 2003. I was jogging on a treadmill and noticed pain in my knee. The pain didn’t go away that night, but I went back to the gym the next day. “What me? I don’t - [Second Fifty – Conscious Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/second-fifty-conscious-aging/) - [Spiritual Lessons from the Aging Process](https://tonilamotta.com/spiritual-lessons-from-the-aging-process/) - One of the benefits I have found in aging is learning finally to admit what I don’t know and can’t do. When I was young, I used to berate myself for the things I didn’t do well and work hard to learn them; as I age, I stick with what I know well and I - [Aging Gracefully](https://tonilamotta.com/aging-gracefully/) - [The Gifts of Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/the-gifts-of-aging/) - On the Gifts of Aging – A Meditation on the Inverse Proportionality of Physical Aging and Spiritual Vigor By: Msgr. Charles Pope We live in an age where youth is celebrated and aging is lamented. Generations ago, age was the “hoary crown of wisdom,” the elders were reverenced and the young stood when they entered. But - [Preparing for Death – the Threshold Choir](https://tonilamotta.com/preparing-for-death-the-threshold-choir/) - Video from KarmaTube - [You’re A Boomer If You Love These 10 Movies](https://tonilamotta.com/youre-a-boomer-if-you-love-these-10-movies/) - From scary to sweet to sad, these iconic films shaped our identity posted by Linda Bernstein, July 15, 2014 NEXT AVENUE Linda Bernstein has written hundreds of articles for dozens of magazines and newspapers, writes the blog GenerationBsquared and teaches social media at the Columbia University School of Journalism. Suddenly (in my mind’s eye) I - [Conscious Aging audio](https://tonilamotta.com/conscious-aging-audio/) - I spoke this past week at the Manatee Center for Spiritual Living. Go here to hear the talk I gave on Conscious Aging. Just before I spoke, we played the song I’m Here to Remind You (Youtube version here) Go here now to listen: http://cslmanatee.org/mp3/2014-0803_tl_conscious_aging.mp3 The closing song can also be found on YouTube I Hope - [Spirituality is key to happiness, older folks say](https://tonilamotta.com/spirituality-is-key-to-happiness-older-folks-say/) - Published: August 20, 2014 10:30 AM By PETER KING pwking@aol.com in Newsday Counting your blessings can bring more joy than counting your money, according to a new survey. Results from the 2014 United States of Aging survey shows adults 60 and older are generally satisfied with their lives and optimistic about the future. The survey, sponsored by the - [Talking about Age in the Media](https://tonilamotta.com/talking-about-age-in-the-media/) - From DailyWritingTips.com Posted: 20 Aug 2014 09:22 PM PDT Everyone wants to live longer, but no one wants to be old. –Harry Moody, director of academic affairs for AARP (2012). To me – old age is always ten years older than I am. –Bernard Baruch, American financier (1870-1965). About forty-two million Americans are 65 years or - [Healthier Aging – Inside and Out](https://tonilamotta.com/healthier-aging-inside-and-out/) - [Fashion and Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/fashion-and-aging/) - [The 5 Things That Spook People Over 50](https://tonilamotta.com/the-5-things-that-spook-people-over-50/) - What to do about the scary stuff that makes middle-aged spines shiver posted by Donna Sapolin Forget things that go bump in the night, global warming, Congressional paralysis, creepie crawlies and assault weapons. There are five other worries that make the hearts of middle-aged folks leap into their throats on a regular basis. The good - [Growing into Contemplative Seeing](https://tonilamotta.com/growing-into-contemplative-seeing/) - Dualistic thinking is the well-practiced pattern of knowing most things by comparison. And for some reason, once you compare or label things (that is, “judge” them), you almost always conclude that one is good and the other is less good or even bad. In the first half of life, this provides ego boundaries and clear - [Don’t Make Assumptions](https://tonilamotta.com/dont-make-assumptions-2/) - When people say things like: “The ocean is beautiful” or “There’s nothing more breathtaking than a sunset” do you ever find yourself robotically agreeing with them without consciously thinking about their statements? This is a common practice. What if, when you really think about it, you discover you prefer mountains to ocean views, or - [Gratitude or Complaint](https://tonilamotta.com/gratitude-or-complaint/) - Do you have a favorite holiday? I certainly do. It’s Thanksgiving. I think it’s because I was born near Thanksgiving and in fact, for most of my formative years, I thought all of America was celebrating My birthday! (Now that’s a great way to develop good self-esteem…) Thanksgiving, Gratitude, Appreciation have all been very - [Great Movie on Conscious Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/great-movie-on-conscious-aging/) - Strangers in Good Company (Touchstone, 1991) A group of long-lived women take shelter in an abandoned farmhouse when their tour bus breaks down. While they wait for other transportation, they share the stories of their lives with each other. - [Spirituality and Aging: Lessons in Letting Go](https://tonilamotta.com/spirituality-and-aging-lessons-in-letting-go/) - It happened to me again. I was in the market shopping. The aisle was a bit tight with two other people trying to pass at the same time. I turned quickly to get out of the way and out of nowhere a sharp pain grabbed my hip. I stumbled, almost falling, but caught myself on - [Integrative Health on Conscious Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/integrative-health-on-conscious-aging/) - Have you ever wondered how you will like to age and have you ever imagined or even remotely thought about how you would like to die? I know these are not easy questions to answer but nevertheless are thought provoking because one day we will all be old and will be nearing death. When I - [Dr. Joyce: Almost a Million Twitter Followers and 71 Years Young](https://tonilamotta.com/dr-joyce-almost-a-million-twitter-followers-and-71-years-young/) - Dr. Joyce: Almost a Million Twitter Followers and 71 Years Young Winnie Sun , Opinions expressed by Forbes Contributors are their own. An interview with Dr. Joyce Knudsen Dr. Joyce Knudsen, PhD, is an internationally published author of ten books, a successful entrepreneur, the CEO of The ImageMaker, Inc. Communications Group, and a a social media - [Fighting Ageism](https://tonilamotta.com/fighting-ageism-2/) - Geropsychologists are striving to stop negative age stereotypes and meet the growing mental health needs of older adults. The number of Americans 60 and older is growing, but society still isn’t embracing the aging population, geropsychologists say. Whether battling “old geezer” stereotypes or trying to obtain equal standing in the workplace, those who are 60 - [Fighting Ageism](https://tonilamotta.com/fighting-ageism/) - http://www.midlifemessages.com/fighting-ageism/ - [Mindfulness Practice](https://tonilamotta.com/mindfulness-practice/) - Bill Epperly is a research biochemist who left the lab in pursuit of enlightenment. He has studied contemplative Christianity and Korean Zen Buddhism and is a long-time student of Ken Wilber’s integral approach to spirituality. He offers mindfulness-based coaching and teaches meditation and Centering Prayer throughout the greater Chicago area. He teaches mindfulness meditation at - [6 Aging Myths We Need to Stop Believing](https://tonilamotta.com/6-aging-myths-need-stop-believing/) - (This article previously appeared on Grandparents.com.) You’ve probably heard a thousand times that as you age, your body and mind begin to “go” — you can no longer move the way you used to and your health deteriorates. But those “facts” couldn’t be further from the truth. Aging doesn’t have to mean decline, in fact, - [Ken Wilber's Stages of Development](https://tonilamotta.com/stagesofdevelopment/) - [Conscious Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/conscious-aging/) - By Mariamne Paulus At the end of May, 2005, we completed a Teleos Institute class series entitled “Conscious Aging.” We used Faces of Aging* as our study and reference book as we examined our own attitudes, images, fears, convictions, values, and actions around the subject of aging. Perhaps you would like to share the fruits - [Becoming Your Best Self As You Age](https://tonilamotta.com/becoming-best-self-age/) - Why one woman has made 'conscious aging' her goal at 61 By Debbie ReslockApril 24, 2017 Have you ever been driving down the road and suddenly become aware that you don’t know how you got there? It’s scary when you recognize you haven’t been paying attention for something as serious as maneuvering a car for - [The Spiritual Dimensions of Conscious Aging Book, Video, and Audio Resources A sampling of new views of aging.](https://tonilamotta.com/spiritual-dimensions-conscious-aging-book-video-audio-resources-sampling-new-views-aging/) - Book Feature by Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat Twitter Facebook Link Print A "senior boom" is happening in American life, and it's getting bigger by the day. Until very recently, most of the attention paid to this phenomenon has focused on retirement options, pension plans, health care challenges, medical ethics, and research on the biology - [Stages of Life](https://tonilamotta.com/stages-of-life/) - by Brian Azar salesdoctor.com Modern psychology has placed most of its focus on human development in the early years with the implied suggestion that our development stops at a certain point. For example, the work of Piaget, Havinghurst, Kegan and Loevinger ends in adolescence or early adulthood. While Jung and Bühler have explored adult development - [Begin the Journey to Conscious Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/begin-the-journey-to-conscious-aging/) - To get follow-up emails and links for the Journey to Conscious Aging process, please enter your name and email here: Name: Email: We respect your email privacy Powered by AWeber Email Marketing Services Dr. Toni LaMotta,In-Lightened Enterprises - [Interview on Embracing the Aging Process](https://tonilamotta.com/interview-on-embracing-the-aging-process/) - This is an interview I did with Barbie Gummin of TLC5. It introduces my upcoming book, Embracing the Aging Process. Look for it soon. - [Mental Diets by Neville Goddard](https://tonilamotta.com/mental-diets-neville-goddard/) - Segment Taken From an Audio Transcript of a Recording called: Mental Diets by Neville Goddard The mind always behaves according to the assumption with which it starts. Therefore, to experience success, we must assume that we are successful. We must live wholly on the level of the imagination itself, and it must be consciously and deliberately - [RIGHT BUCKS by Ken Wilber](https://tonilamotta.com/right-bucks-ken-wilber/) - This is very long -- and very worth pondering..... The Dharma is free. No one should charge money for teaching or transmitting Dharma. Dharma that touches money is no dharma at all. Selling the Dharma--there is a root of all evil. The Dharma offered freely and without charge to all who seek it: there - [gift](https://tonilamotta.com/gift/) - Here is your video Meditation for the Midlife Transition It's called Lessons from the Dragonfly To receive more information and support for midlife and beyond, please fill in the box on the right to get a FREE bi-weekly newsletter and other suggested resources from Dr. Toni - [Giving Back](https://tonilamotta.com/giving-back/) - Living in the second half of life, I no longer have to prove that I or my group is the best, that my ethnicity is superior, that my religion is the only one that God loves, or that my role and place in society deserve superior treatment. I am not preoccupied with collecting more goods - [“Aging is a Triumph, Not a Tragedy”](https://tonilamotta.com/aging-triumph-tragedy/) - So spake the great geriatrician, psychiatrist and elder advocate, Robert N. Butler, who died in December 2010. According to his biographer, W. Andrew Achenbaum, he helped “...to transform the study of aging from a marginal specialty into an intellectually vibrant field of inquiry.” Personally, I doubt I would have become an elder advocate myself without - [Prepare for a Good End of Life](https://tonilamotta.com/2538-2/) - [Warren Buffet](https://tonilamotta.com/warren-buffet/) - The connection between money and happiness comes up often in the media. If you had $100,000, what would you do with it? Invest it? Buy a fancy sports car? Take a trip around the world? Or would you buy a share in Berkshire Hathaway, Warren Buffett’s holding company that has averaged high and consistent returns - [From [Exploring Life] by Brian Alger](https://tonilamotta.com/from-exploring-life-by-brian-alger/) - The Spirituality of Aging A spirituality of aging is a way of being that reflects a deep, authentic, and compelling engagement in understanding and merging with the essence of life. A spiritual response to life is simultaneously intellectual, emotional, and biological: spirituality seeks to evoke positive states of being in which we embraced by an - [Growing Old with Grace](https://tonilamotta.com/growing-old-with-grace/) - TIME GOES BY - Growing Old with Grace Recently, I've been running across a lot of online writing about growing old with grace. Most of them are saccharine and say the same few things: Stay active Be social Serve others Laugh Some throw in the phrase “stay in love.” That's how you can tell it - [Adyashanti on Death](https://tonilamotta.com/adyashanti-on-death/) - Death_lrg-1 - [Death Makes Life Possible](https://tonilamotta.com/death-makes-life-possible-2-2/) - [Redwood Highway - James Twyman](https://tonilamotta.com/redwood-highway-james-twyman/) - Newsletter April 26, 2013 The Golden Indigos have arrived, and is FINISHED! Two weeks ago Redwood Highway was screened at the Ashland International Film Festival, and the response was immediate: A New Genre Was Born! It's time to release many more inspiring films for seniors and the Boomer generation, movies that deal with the issues - [Monthly Meditation - on JOY](https://tonilamotta.com/monthly-meditation-on-joy/) - [Lessons From a Dragonfly: It's Never Too Late](https://tonilamotta.com/lessons-from-a-dragonfly-its-never-too-late/) - Tips for Transformation By Wendi Knox If you’ve ever wondered if you’re too old to reinvent your career, follow a dream, or learn how to surf, tap, fly, yodel, knit, or you-name-it, this story’s for you. Once upon a time, (actually, last year), I was peacefully walking my dog, Lucky in the neighborhood. But - [My Own Natural Energy Yield](https://tonilamotta.com/natural-energy-yield/) - Today’s message is entitled My Own Natural Energy Yield Yes - Money! And what a wonderful way to look at the idea of money as an acronym for My Own Natural Energy Yield? (To use a John Randolph Price’s term). Financial abundance is one of the yields, - [100 years old and still teaching](https://tonilamotta.com/100-years-old-and-still-teaching/) - [What are your beliefs about money?](https://tonilamotta.com/beliefs-money/) - What rating would you give the following statements on a scale of 1 to 10, one being the least important to 10 being the most important? 1. Money gives me safety. 2. I could do such interesting things if I were rich. 3. Money lets me help people. 4. I could start a fun business - [The Best Books on Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/the-best-books-on-aging/) - There are thousands of books that promise you need not grow old. They usually come with such phrases in their titles as Forever Young, Growing Younger, Ending Aging, Turn Back the Clock, Secrets to Staying Young and the ever-popular Anti-Aging. Mostly, they are filled with denial and a lot of wishful thinking. Oh, they or - [David Wolfe on Jung’s Seven Tasks of Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/david-wolfe-on-jungs-seven-tasks-of-aging/) - David Wolfe, who blogs at Ageless Marketing, has produced a series there covering Carl Jung’s seven tasks of aging. These tasks are not like washing the car and paying the bills that you can quickly check off your to-do list and move on to the next. They are ongoing processes that enrich your understanding of - [Aging Humor](https://tonilamotta.com/aging-humor-2/) - [The Process of Flow – Giving & Grounding](https://tonilamotta.com/process-flow-giving-grounding/) - There was a woman who longed to find out what heaven was like. Every day she would pray, “God grant me a glimpse of paradise.” She prayed for years, until one night she had a dream. In her dream an angel came and led her to heaven. They walked down a street until they came - [9 Worst Things About Being Over 50](https://tonilamotta.com/9-worst-things-about-being-over-50/) - The top complaints about getting older and some smart strategies for tackling them posted by Donna Sapolin, January 4, 2013 Donna Sapolin is the VP, Editorial Director & General Manager of Next Avenue. Follow Donna on Twitter @stylestorymedia. On the upside, growing older means you’ve accumulated a good deal of experience and wisdom as well - [Aging With Awareness](https://tonilamotta.com/aging-with-awareness-2/) - In M. Schlitz, T. Amorok, and M. Micozzi (Editors), Consciousness and Healing: An Anthology of Integral Approaches to Mind/Body Medicine. Elseveir, 2004. Ron Valle, Ph.D. and Mary Mohs, L.V.N., M.A. Awakening: A Center for Exploring Living and Dying 9701 Deer Valley Road Brentwood, CA 94513 When we resist aging, we resist life itself, since - [Falling Upward - Questions for reflection & Life Review](https://tonilamotta.com/falling-upward-questions-for-reflection-life-review/) - Center for Action and Contemplation QUESTIONS FOR INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP REFLECTION FROM THE “FALLING UPWARD” WEBCAST May 21, 2011 Suzanne Stabile & Sheryl Fullerton Center for Action and Contemplation www.cacradicalgrace.org P.O. Box 12464, Albuquerque, NM 87195 (505) 242-9588 fax: (505) 242-9518 These questions are meant to elicit reflection and contemplation on the challenges - [Psycology of Money](https://tonilamotta.com/psycology-money/) - What makes you happy – personal growth or money? Do you have headaches and stomach problems? Do you have sleep problems? If you do, these problems may be related to an overemphasis on extrinsic values or goals based on recent psychological studies. These values include “money, luxury, appearance, attractiveness, status, popularity, looks, and power,” according - [What is Consciousness - Peter Russell](https://tonilamotta.com/what-is-consciousness-peter-russell/) - [What is Life Review?](https://tonilamotta.com/what-is-life-review/) - Life Review (LR) is both a specific and general term, depending on how it is used. As a general term, it refers to the process of looking back to the past in order to inform and/or bring pleasure into the present. Such activities as personal story-telling, oral history, reminiscence, guided autobiography, life history interviewing, and - [Jane Fonda - Life Review](https://tonilamotta.com/jane-fonda-life-review/) - [Legacy and life Review](https://tonilamotta.com/legacy-and-life-review/) - STITCHED TOGETHER BY MEMORIES: Mother's quilt provides a warmth Beyond its fiber down. Each night I'm wrapped in love, Our family history, and my wedding gown. Mother cut with care her patterns Each scrap to trim and save- Just as she did with the numerous fabric remnants that to her others gave. Each patterned square - [How to Become Open to Life](https://tonilamotta.com/how-to-become-open-to-life/) - From one of my favorite bloggers - ENJOY Keep your hands open, and all the sands of the desert can pass through them. Close them, and all you can feel is a bit of grit.’ ~Taisen Deshimaru Post written by Leo Babauta. In many ways, I close myself off to life in all its fullness. - [6 Common Myths About Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/6-common-myths-about-aging-2/) - Think you know the facts about growing older? Think again. 1. Myth: Dementia is an inevitable part of aging. Fact: "Dementia should be seen as a modifiable health condition and, if it occurs, should be followed as a medical condition, not a normal part of aging," said Patricia Harris, MD, a geriatrician and associate professor - [The Spiritual Dimensions of Conscious Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/the-spiritual-dimensions-of-conscious-aging/) - Book, Video, and Audio Resources By Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat A "senior boom" is happening in American life, and it's getting bigger by the day. Until very recently, most of the attention paid to this phenomenon has focused on retirement options, pension plans, health care challenges, medical ethics, and research on the biology of - [Aging Invisibly - or not](https://tonilamotta.com/aging-invisibly-or-not-2/) - A poem from Shel Silverstein nicely captures the invisibility that cloaks people as we get old: Said the little boy, “Sometimes I drop my spoon.” Said the old man, “I do that too.” The little boy whispered, “I wet my pants.” “I do that too,” laughed the old man.” Said the little boy, “I often - [Beautiful Older Women - Aging Gracefully](https://tonilamotta.com/beautiful-older-women-aging-gracefully-2/) - [What is So Good About Growing Old](https://tonilamotta.com/what-is-so-good-about-growing-old/) - Forget about senior moments. The great news is that researchers are discovering some surprising advantages of aging By Helen Fields Smithsonian magazine, July 2012, Scientists are finding the mind gets sharper at a number of vitally important abilities as you get older. Karsten Thormaehlen Even as certain mental skills decline with age—what was that guy’s - [Fear of Aging - by Keith Wommack](https://tonilamotta.com/fear-of-aging-by-keith-wommack-2/) - What we fear can only keep us in captivity Keith Wommack, In Your Words Recently, when asked, "What can fear do to you?" I was reminded of two experiences. The first started with me asking a Sunday school class of first-graders: "What would you say if someone wanted you to pray for them?" A visitor - [Now I Become Myself](https://tonilamotta.com/now-i-become-myself/) - Now I become myself. It’s taken Time, many years and places; I have been dissolved and shaken, Worn other people’s faces, Run madly, as if Time were there, Terribly old, crying a warning, “Hurry, you will be dead before –” (What? Before you reach the morning? Or the end of the poem is clear? Or - [Death Makes Life Possible](https://tonilamotta.com/death-makes-life-possible-2/) - I'm in the midst of creating a new product which is all about Conscious Aging and overcoming the fear of aging. Of course, that includes overcoming the fear of death as well. I've been reading a lot lately about this and as baby boomers age, the conversation gets more prevalent. I recently came across a - [Retirement humor](https://tonilamotta.com/retirement-humor/) - Retirement!!! Question: How many days in a week? Answer: 6 Saturdays, 1 Sunday Question: When is a retiree's bedtime? Answer: Three hours after he falls asleep on the couch. Question: How many retirees to change a light bulb? Answer: Only one, but it might take all day. Question: What's the biggest gripe of retirees? Answer: - [Where are my keys?](https://tonilamotta.com/where-are-my-keys/) - [Guest post on Mindful Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/guest-post-on-mindful-aging/) - Mindful Aging by Lenore Flynn In two days I will celebrate my 59 birthday. For most of my adult life I have viewed my birthday as a day to rejoice. All the things that have been my life have sprung from that day. I love to think of my parents on that Sunday morning happy - [Overcoming the Fear of Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/overcoming-the-fear-of-aging/) - [Movies that Reflect on Spiritual Growth in the Process of Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/movies-that-reflect-on-spiritual-growth-in-the-process-of-aging/) - Lately I've been watching a lot more movies as a way of relaxing - but, somehow, even movies seem to hold special messages for my life. So, I decided to find some that YOU might enjoy as part of your reflection on the process of aging. I'm Not Rappaport (MCA/Universal, 1996) — This feisty drama - [Shirley MacLaine and The Process of Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/shirley-maclaine-and-the-process-of-aging/) - Years ago I read everything I could get my hands on by Shirley MacLaine. I was fascinated by the fact that she never tried to hide her spirituality - even though it was considered "out there" by so many others, and especially by the media. Hollywood seems to have embraced Shirley as she ages. Perhaps, - [Learning to Love Growing Old](https://tonilamotta.com/learning-to-love-growing-old/) - I just read an article that I want to share with all ofyou. It emphasizes that Fear of aging speeds the very decline we dread most. It looks to me like we have our work cut out for us. To teach a generation of baby boomers to accept the aging process and let go of - [Wisdom - To Celebrate Growing Older](https://tonilamotta.com/wisdom-to-celebrate-growing-older/) - Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio . "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more: 1. Life isn't - [Virtues of Aging by Jimmy Carter](https://tonilamotta.com/virtues-of-aging-by-jimmy-carter/) - "We are not alone in our worry about both the physical aspect of aging and the prejudice that exists toward the elderly, which is similar to racism or sexism. What makes it different is that the prejudice also exists among those of us who are either within this group or rapidly approaching it. When I - [Celebrities Aging Gracefully](https://tonilamotta.com/celebrities-aging-gracefully/) - I just finished watching "The Iron Lady" with the magnificent Meryl Streep. What an amazing model of how to age gracefully. It got me thinking about other celebs who have been in the limelight lately and I thought I'd share some of them here with you. Add your own favorites please. Thank God that not - [Redefining Beauty at Any Age](https://tonilamotta.com/celebrating-aging/) - Visit msnbc.com for breaking news, world news, and news about the economy I'm excited to share this with you. The video is expressing my vision - to change the way the world looks at midlife and aging. This is a great start - Thanks MAC cosmetics (The glitter I wear on my eyes comes from - [What's on your bucket list?](https://tonilamotta.com/whats-on-your-bucket-list/) - Have you answered the question yet? It's really another way of asking the age-old questions - Who am I? Why am I here? and What's the Meaning of my life? No small task. But one that is vital if you wish to have a successful midlife transition and a healthy aging process. Why wait until - [Leaving a Legacy Book](https://tonilamotta.com/leaving-a-legacy-book/) - I just finished four days of training with Tidewell here in Sarasota as a Hospice volunteer. What awesome work they do and I'm delighted to be taking part in it even for a small bit. I couldn't help reflecting during all the training on how important it is to be able to look at end - [What kind of Friend are You?](https://tonilamotta.com/what-kind-of-friend-are-you/) - Friendships are even more important as we age. But, so many people tell me that as they are going through the process of aging, they find it hard to make friends. If you are one of those people (or even if you are not), read on to find some stimulating ideas about how to attract - [Friendship, Healthy Aging and your Life Review](https://tonilamotta.com/1643-2/) - In the quest for healthy aging, many people turn to doctors, self-help books or herbal supplements. But they overlook a powerful tool that could help them fight illness and depression, speed recovery, slow aging and prolong life: their friends. Even Researchers are starting to pay attention to the importance of friendship and social networks in - [Coaching and Mentoring: What's the Difference?](https://tonilamotta.com/coaching-and-mentoring-whats-the-difference/) - There are lots of people and companies out there who can coach you to reach a specific goal. Coaches are functionally oriented and task oriented. People often confuse coaching and mentoring. Though related, they are not the same. Coaches don’t mentor, but mentors can sometimes coach when needed and wanted. In a previous article - [Coach or Mentor - Is there a Difference? Do I need/want one?](https://tonilamotta.com/coach-or-mentor-is-there-a-difference-do-i-needwant-one/) - As I work with more and more clients and read about and talk to others about their 'programs', I can't help noticing the difference between coaching and mentoring. It led me to reflect on my own life and how I have used both. COACHES Voice Lessons When I was young I wanted to sing and - [Recommended Books on Spirituality for Midlife and Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/recommended-books-on-spirituality-for-midlife-and-aging-2/) - From time to time I read some great books on this topic and I want to present them to you for your enjoyment as well. Bookmark this page. It will become a very useful resource. by Dr. Toni Arrien, Angeles. The Four-Fold Way: Walking the Paths of the Warrior, Teacher, Healer, and Visionary Boulder, CO: - [Recommended Books on Spirituality for Midlife and Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/recommended-books-on-spirituality-for-midlife-and-aging/) - Arrien, Angeles. The Four-Fold Way: Walking the Paths of the Warrior, Teacher, Healer, and Visionary Boulder, CO: Sounds True, 2005. Offers a collection of teachings, reflections, and stories from around the world to open us to the challenges and deeper mysteries of "the great crossing" at midlife. Mastering these lessons and gifts can help us - [Do a Life Review and Find Out What's Important to You](https://tonilamotta.com/do-a-life-review-and-find-out-whats-important-to-you/) - I've been talking lately about Life Review. I've been obsessed with the idea ever since I heard Jane Fonda on Oprah and read her new book, Prime Time. I've been reminded of how often when I did reflect on my past in a positive way, I found new energy for the present. That's the only - [Journaling Your Way to A Life Review](https://tonilamotta.com/journaling-your-way-to-a-life-review/) - Many years ago, I had the privilege of working with the now late, Ira Progoff and deeply studied and worked with his Intensive Journal Process. This process has been something I have used in various times of my life especially in times of transition to get clarity on what my life was wishing to become. - [Guest Post on Law of Attraction & Abraham-Hicks](https://tonilamotta.com/guest-post-on-law-of-attraction-abraham/) - Read more by and about Scott here. - [Life Review Interview Questions](https://tonilamotta.com/life-review-interview-questions/) - One of the important things to do during the time of Midlife Transition is a LIFE REVIEW. It has been said that those who review their past in midlife are more certain of a successful transition to a healthy aging process. The following information (although it was created as an interview process for older adults) - [Shifting Gears at Midlife: Creating an Extraordinary Future](https://tonilamotta.com/shifting-gears-at-midlife-creating-an-extraordinary-future/) - Looking for a way to change your life? Creative living can lead to an extraordinary life An interactive, multimedia e-Course in creative living: Shifting gears at midlife: Creating an extraordinary future, created by Dr. Fred Horowitz and Dr. Frank Bonkowski. See the Free Demo. Get the Special Winter Discount running to March 31, 2012 Why - [The Process of Aging - Dealing with Loss and Grief](https://tonilamotta.com/the-process-of-aging/) - Helping yourself or a loved one coping with Grief? One of the major things we go through in the aging process is LOSS - sometimes loss of loved ones, often loss of friends, or even loss of energy or the life we once knew as our own. Dealing with grief can be overwhelming when you - [The Process of Aging - which Wife Will You Choose?](https://tonilamotta.com/the-process-of-aging-which-wife-will-you-choose/) - We all have four wives. Watch this video to find out what they are. In the first part of our lives, we celebrate and focus on the first three sometimes leaving out the fourth. In the second part of our lives, if we are lucky, we begin to see what's REALLY important and our focus - [Dealing with Loss and the Aging Process](https://tonilamotta.com/dealing-with-loss-and-the-aging-process/) - Living Forever When we are very young, time seems to have no end. Somewhere in midlife, most people often begin realize that the number of remaining years is limited and that at least in this form, we will not live forever. That very realization can be traumatic or can be a catalyst for life changing - [Are you living an extraordinary life?](https://tonilamotta.com/1410-2/) - Creative living can lead to an extraordinary life Click here to visit Happiness After Midlife. An interactive, multimedia e-Course in creative living: Shifting gears at midlife: Creating an extraordinary future, created by Dr. Fred Horowitz and Dr. Frank Bonkowski. Click thee words Free Demo to See the Free Demo. Get the Special Winter Discount running - [Are spirituality and religion the same?](https://tonilamotta.com/are-spirituality-and-religion-the-same/) - My college-level students often mix up spirituality and religion. But there is a difference between the two. Religion is based on belief, authority, and a faith tradition. The teachings are proscribed. Spirituality, on the other hand, is based on a heart-based, intuitive connection to something larger than ourselves – source, consciousness, God, The Tao, for - [Dealing with Suffering as Grace - Ram Dass](https://tonilamotta.com/dealing-with-suffering-as-grace-ram-dass/) - Starting February 19, join Ram Dass and his guests for the live video webinar "Being Here Now," a soulful exploration of mindfullness, love, service, living and dying. For this 4-session Evolver Intensive, produced by GreatMystery.org, Ram Dass' guests will be Jack Kornfield, Rameshwar Das, Mirabai Bush, and Dale . The topics that Ram Dass will reflect on - [7 Ways to Keep your Brain Young through the Process of Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/7-ways-to-keep-your-brain-young-through-the-process-of-aging/) - I recently read an interesting article about 7 ways to keep your brain young. I'd like to summarize them for you here. 1. Surf Did you know that surfing was good for your brain? No, not the kind you do in the ocean, but the Internet variety. UCLA scientists tell us that searching the Net - [The process of aging - NOT ANTI-Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/the-process-of-aging-not-anti-aging/) - Looking Young The other day I got a haircut, and right after that everyone who saw me said things like, "You look at least 10 years younger." One person even told me I looked 20 years younger. Now, I know that was supposed to be a compliment. But, I found myself asking several questions - - [Falling Upward Book](https://tonilamotta.com/falling-upward-book/) - "Richard Rohr has given us a perfect guide to what he calls the 'future journey,'a voyage into the mystery and beauty of healthy spiritual maturity." -Mehmet Oz, M.D., Host of the Dr. Oz Show Order book now by clicking on the banner above! Contact the Center for Action and Contemplation at (505) 247-1636 or (505) - [Ageism vs the Healthy Aging Process](https://tonilamotta.com/1328-2/) - AGEISM Until recently, aging was regarded with disdain, with an expectancy of waning vigor and even social uselessness. But the stereotypes are changing and seniors are becoming more and more interested in true-life long learning, healthy lifestyles and even political and social activism. We are truly seeing a population reinventing itself. In many of our - [Does the Process of Aging have to include Doctor Visits?](https://tonilamotta.com/does-the-process-of-aging-have-to-include-doctor-visits/) - Changing Goals in Youth and the Process of Aging The goal of youth is to learn to live in society. The goal as we age is to learn to debunk the rules we learned that may no longer serve us. Everyone has “unresolved issues” and things that are incomplete in the developmental cycle. If - [Christina Northrup on The Aging Process](https://tonilamotta.com/christina-northrup-on-the-aging-process/) - [The Aging Process - Growing Old Gracefully](https://tonilamotta.com/the-aging-process-growing-old-gracefully/) - Aging is defined as "the accumulation of changes in an organism or object over time." In human beings the aging process refers to physical, psychological, and social changes that are occurring as we get older. Some of these factors will grow over time, while others will decline. Our knowledge of world events and general wisdom - [Are you fearful of aging?](https://tonilamotta.com/are-you-fearful-of-aging/) - We're Getting Older When Social Security first came into being in 1935, our life span was thought to be about 70 years at most. Now, we have learned so much medically and nutritionally that people are living far longer. In 1776, someone born in the US was expected to live to about 35. Lifestyle and - [Book on Spirituality of Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/1242-2/) - In doing some research about the spirituality of aging, I came across an author and a book that I want to share with you. He too talks about aging as a spiritual practice.Here's an interview with him. Have you noticed there are certain things you can’t do as easily as you could when you were - [Jane Fonda Video on Life's Third Act, Prime Time](https://tonilamotta.com/jane-fonda-video-on-lifes-third-act/) - Click the link below to watch Jane Fonda giving a talk at TED on Life's Third Act Would love to hear your comments. I'm writing a book that starts where she leaves off... Jane Fonda on Life's Third Act - [Quotes about Aging and Spirituality](https://tonilamotta.com/quotes-about-aging-and-spirituality/) - You are as young as your faith, as old as your doubt; as young as your self-confidence, as old as your fear; as young as your hope, as old as your despair. ~Douglas MacArthur To be seventy years young is sometimes far more cheerful and hopeful than to be forty years old. ~Oliver Wendell - [12 keys to aging well spiritually](https://tonilamotta.com/12-keys-to-aging-well-spiritually/) - AGING AND SPIRITUALITY: After four years of research, these 12 keys were identified as the foundational principles of aging and spirituality letting us open-up to the special grace of our mature years, and taste life in abundance. Transform your attitudes about aging, Seek love everywhere, Delight in connectedness, Live in the "Now" Accept your true - [Aging with Wisdom and Grace By Dr. Maureen McCarthy](https://tonilamotta.com/aging-with-wisdom-and-grace-by-dr-maureen-mccarthy/) - Retirement is a natural part of life cycle, just as aging is a normal aspect of living. Even the newborn infant ages from one day to the next. The real goal of every human being should be to grow in age, wisdom and grace. Grace is the response to the daily blessings we experience, some - [Top Five Regrets of the Dying](https://tonilamotta.com/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying/) - Top Five Regrets of the Dying By Bronnie Ware For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced - [In the Service of Life - Rachel Naomi Remen](https://tonilamotta.com/in-the-service-of-life-rachel-naomi-remen/) - Lately, in thinking about the spirituality of aging, and one thing I know I've been learning a LOT about lately is how to ask for and receive help. In my own experience and in my research, I've come across an important distinction - the difference between HELPING and SERVING. Hopefully in our later years, we - [Funny Prayer about Getting Old](https://tonilamotta.com/funny-prayer-about-getting-old/) - [Jane Fonda - Prime Time](https://tonilamotta.com/jane-fonda-prime-time/) - Many readers will buy Jane Fonda's latest book, "Prime Time: Love, health, sex, fitness, friendship, spirit?making the most of all of your life", to see how a privileged member of Hollywood royalty has coped with aging, and they will get what they paid for. The 448-page book covers every imaginable aspect of aging, filtered through - [Faith, Spirituality and Aging - Jennifer L. Brower](https://tonilamotta.com/faith-spirituality-and-aging-jennifer-l-brower/) - With advancing age, what happens that may lead to a rethinking, a re-evaluation of one's life and what has guided a person religiously or spiritually? Very simply, the aging process -- the experience of moving into and through different developmental phases -- affects the spirit and therefore one's spiritual life. If we understand the "spirit" - [Billy Graham - on the spirituality of aging....](https://tonilamotta.com/billy-graham-on-the-spirituality-of-aging/) - Billy Graham, arguably America’s most famous Christian evangelist and preacher, is 93 years old as I write this. Graham’s birthday comes just after the release of his newest book, Nearing Home: Life, Faith, and Finishing Well. In his book – which covers subjects such as spirituality, the struggles and pleasures of growing old, as well - [Midlife Transition Rev. Mike Stubbs, Special to The Gazette](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-rev-mike-stubbs-special-to-the-gazette/) - One of the topics not discussed much in churches today is midlife transitions. I am talking about males in particular. I don’t feel qualified to talk about women. That topic is still a mystery to me. Midlife transition happens to men. It affects them physically, emotionally, and spiritually. The results are observable even though they - [from Howard Thurman's Inward Journey](https://tonilamotta.com/from-howard-thurmans-inward-journey/) - "When I Awake, I Am Still with Thee" In all the waking hours The Tentacle of Time Give channel to each living thing: The bird on wing; The mole moving in darkness underground; The cricket chanting its evening song; The primeval whale sporting in chilly seas, or floating noiselessly in turbulent waters; In - [The Dragonfly and Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/1176-2/) - Symbolisms of the Dragonfly Maturity and a Depth of character The dragonfly, in almost every part of the world symbolizes change and change in the perspective of self realization; and the kind of change that has its source in mental and emotional maturity and the understanding of the deeper meaning of life.The traditional association of - [4th of July Midlife Pledge](https://tonilamotta.com/4th-of-july-midlife-pledge/) - [Midlife Transition: Career change](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-career-change-2/) - by Diane Topkis... To paraphrase the Cheshire Cat “If you don’t know where you are going any path will do.” Or this quote from Yogi Berra “If you don’t know where you are going, you will wind up somewhere else.” That’s how many of us women got to our current career. At midlife, that’s no - [Rachel Naomi Remin - spirituality of aging advice](https://tonilamotta.com/rachel-naomi-remin-spirituality-of-aging-advice/) - "What if I never marry or have children?" Rachel Naomi Remen, MD, 67, clinical professor of family and community medicine at the University of California, San Francisco School of Medicine and author of Kitchen Table Wisdom and My Grandfather's Blessings: "I have encountered two of women's greatest fears: I've been single all my life, and - [Oprah's final show - awesome message](https://tonilamotta.com/oprahs-final-show-awesome-message/) - Click here now to view Oprah\'s final show - [Complete Communication](https://tonilamotta.com/spirituality-of-aging-complete-communication/) - Complete work also benefits relationships -Learn to give WHOLE or complete messages. This means not leaving things out, not covering up your anger, not squelching your wants. It means giving accurate feedback about what you observe, clearly stating your inferences and conclusions, saying how it all makes you feel, and if you need something or - [Spirituality of Aging - types of Completion](https://tonilamotta.com/spirituality-of-aging-types-of-completion/) - TYPES OF COMPLETION: First - clean up the past - what we did; didn't do; should have done, did poorly or wrongly. Confucius once said, "to be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it." In the 12 step programs, you learn to make a list of anyone you ever harmed - & where - [Desiderata - by one of my favorite singers, Renee Morgan Brooks](https://tonilamotta.com/desiderata-by-one-of-my-favorite-singers-renee-morgan-brooks/) - [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBsF-I9KqAU[/youtube] - [Why we don't change](https://tonilamotta.com/why-we-dont-change/) - Perhaps you have heard this story about a frog and a scorpion: One day a frog was sitting happily by the side of the river when a scorpion came along. "Oh Mr. Frog," said the scorpion, "I need to get to the other side of the river to be with my family. Will you please - [A Modern Psalm for Midlife and Spirituality of Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/a-modern-psalm-for-midlife-and-spirituality-of-aging/) - "I will go up to the altar of God to sing songs of gratitude, for God gives joy in youth, joy in middle age and the greatest joy in old age. I go joyfully up to God's holy altar, not in the chains of obligation, bowing, foot-dragging dreary, to do some duty, but to dance - [Adult ADD - from Mona Lisa Schultz](https://tonilamotta.com/adult-add-from-mona-lisa-schultz/) - Learn now to pay attention and feel like you're sharp as a tack, or at least not, as they say, the dullest tool in the shed. Woman with Satellites In a world that drives us crazy with all that information that comes at us from everywhere, it's so easy to feel like you're losing your - [Perfection? - what the Spirituality of Aging teaches us](https://tonilamotta.com/perfection-what-the-spirituality-of-aging-teaches-us/) - We grow spiritually much more by doing it wrong than by doing it right. That might just be the central message of how spiritual growth happens; yet nothing in us wants to believe it…. If there is such a thing as human perfection, it seems to emerge precisely from how we handle the imperfection that - [Spirituality and Aging - A Psalm of Life by Longfellow](https://tonilamotta.com/spirituality-and-aging-a-psalm-of-life-by-longfellow/) - I offer this poem as a reflection on the Spirituality of Aging: A Psalm of Life by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow What the Heart of the Young Man Said to the Psalmist Tell me not, in mournful numbers, "Life is but an empty dream!" For the soul is dead that slumbers, And things are not what - [Spirituality and Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/spirituality-and-aging-2/) - Do you find yourself asking the deeper-scarier-questions as you make your way through middle age and get closer to the last act? Well, you're not alone. But as a member of the baby boomer generation-the group that famously questioned authority-old-time religion might not be for you. So what does being spiritual mean? Host Robert Lipsyte - [Spirituality of Aging: Attitude is Everything](https://tonilamotta.com/spirituality-of-aging-attitude-is-everything/) - The Midlife Transition often triggers thoughts about getting older and getting on in life. Perhaps a more pertinent thought to ponder should be: “What does it mean to age successfully? According to some experts, it’s not enough to just tick off the birthdays. “Successful” aging requires deliberate forethought, a conscious effort and the right attitude. - [Reinvent Yourself - Take Steps to Complete](https://tonilamotta.com/reinvent-yourself-take-steps-to-complete/) - There is no way you can move into the future, unless you let go of the past. Today I'm beginning a series of articles about FIVE very practical ways of doing that. I once heard that there are only 3 things which really hold a person back in life: unmet needs, insufficient distinctions /language and - [Spiritual Growth - a Major Midlife Transition Task](https://tonilamotta.com/spiritual-growth-a-major-midlife-transition-task/) - Spiritual growth is the process of evolving our consciousness. What exactly does this mean? We can define spiritual growth in a number of ways: 1) As we grow spiritually, the way that we perceive the world should be changing for the better. For example, in the early stages of our spiritual development, we might take - [Life Transitions - Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/life-transitions-midlife/) - The Death And Rebirth Of Self Sometimes a part of us must die before another part can come to life. Sometimes a part of us must die before another part can come to life. Even though this is a natural and necessary part of our growth, it is often painful or, if we don’t realize - [How Not to have a Midlife Crisis](https://tonilamotta.com/how-not-to-have-a-midlife-crisis/) - One of the reasons people have a midlife crisis is because their lives have become mundane and boring. They want to stir things up a bit and so buy a new car, change their hairstyle, have an affair. And, no, none of these things work- or if they seem to, it is only temporary. While - [Rainer Maria Rilke on Change](https://tonilamotta.com/rainer-maria-rilke-on-change/) - SONNETS TO ORPHEUS: II, 12 (stanza 1) Desire change. Be enthusiastic for that flame in which a thing escapes your grasp while it makes a glorious display of transformation. That designing Spirit, the master mind of all things on earth loves nothing so much in the sweeping movement of the dance as the turning point. - [From BraveHeart Women - Is our Society focused on the young?](https://tonilamotta.com/from-braveheart-women-is-our-society-focused-on-the-young/) - [Senior Moments - Memories Spoof](https://tonilamotta.com/senior-moments-memories-spoof/) - [Spirituality in Midlife and Beyond](https://tonilamotta.com/spirituality-in-midlife-and-beyond/) - Spirituality is all about knowing that there is more to life than meets the eye. It seems to me that that is one of the lessons we learn approximately around midlife, and certainly as we age. In fact, we all celebrate anniversaries and birthdays, so, in our consciousness, there must be a deep knowing that - [Midlife Transition Prayer by Teilhard de Chardin](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-prayer-by-teilhard-de-chardin/) - Patient Trust In Ourselves & The Slow Work Of God By Pierre Teilhard de Chardin Above all, trust in the slow work of God. We are all, quite naturally, impatient in everything to reach the end without delay. We should like to skip the intermediate stages. We are impatient of being on the way to - [Baby Boomers and the Midlife Transition – Life Without Crisis](https://tonilamotta.com/baby-boomers-and-the-midlife-transition-life-without-crisis/) - Before I became a serious student of Yoga, I used to liken life only when there were climaxes - or in some cases, dramas and crises. I was looking at life as a series of goals and destinations - living in the future and somehow missing LIFE itself in the search. The Midlife Transition has - [Getting Clear about Relationships](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-getting-clear-about-relationships/) - You've probably heard it said - , "If you want the perfect partner be the perfect partner." This is the crux of it: we must have the willingness to be that which we want,to live in integrity with it, and to live as though we already have it. And, we must be unwilling to have - [Midlife Transition: Getting clear with the smile test](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-getting-clear-with-the-smile-test/) - So once you figure out how to let Divine Intelligence guide you and stop saying I don't know - or letting other's ideas drive what you want - What are some ways you can figure out what it is that you really want? Smile test - get a counselor, a practitioner, Minister or friend to - [The Real Midlife Crisis](https://tonilamotta.com/the-real-midlife-crisis/) - [7 secrets to "Reinvent Midlife" From the Inside-Out](https://tonilamotta.com/7-secrets-to-reinvent-midlife-from-the-inside-out-2/) - Years ago, I was part of a woman’s drumming circle whose members ranged from 7 to 97. At one meeting we were celebrating someone’s 50th birthday and the leader asked that only those 50 and older speak that night. Each person in turn talked about the freedom she finally felt to be herself. Many spoke - [Midlife Transition Spirituality](https://tonilamotta.com/978-2/) - How middle age invites women into the life of the spirit. By Marilyn Sewell When children leave home, women often ask themselves, “What now?” Whether or not we have raised children, we begin to count the years and ask, “How much time is left? What is pulling at me? What can I yet become?” Those - [The Midlife Transition: Help for Getting Clear...](https://tonilamotta.com/help-for-getting-clear/) - The Midlife Transition can be a wonderful time to establish new beliefs and get rid of the ones that have not served you. If you need help in getting clear, you might want to take the following quiz.. (Don't worry, there are no scores...) Is this you speaking?: I'm in the midlife transition and I - [Getting Clear in the Midlife Transition by avoiding Shoulds](https://tonilamotta.com/getting-clear-in-the-midlife-transition-by-avoiding-shoulds/) - Sometimes it's hard to get clear about what we really want because there are so many SHOULDS that it’s hard to distinguish what voice to listen to. Do you know what you really want? You may have difficulty with this question because the answer is hidden deep within you buried beneath a sea of shoulds. - [Midlife Transition or Midlife Crisis?](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-crisis/) - “Midlife’s gotten a bad rap! Sure it can be a crisis, but it’s also an opportunity to re-invent those parts of your (self/life) that aren’t working.” - J Keil - [How much Joy can you stand](https://tonilamotta.com/how-much-joy-can-you-stand/) - The purpose of life is to be HAPPY. Do you agree? Perhaps intellectually – but I have found consistently that many of us seem to be thwarting our own happiness – maybe we secretly still have lingering beliefs that we are supposed to suffer in life or that we grow most by delays – Or - [Beauty of Mathematics](https://tonilamotta.com/beauty-of-mathematics/) - [Recommended Movies for Midlife Transition and Spirituality](https://tonilamotta.com/recommended-movies-for-midlife-transition-and-spirituality/) - The Game (Michael Douglas) The Matrix Movie 1 (Keanu Reeves) What The Bleep Do We Know? The Thirteenth Floor (Craig Bierko, Armin Mueller-Stahl, Gretchen Mol) The Legend Of Bagger Vance (Will Smith) Purple Rose Of Cairo (Mia Farrow and Jeff Daniels) Field Of Dreams (Kevin Costner) National Treasure (Nicholas Cage) City Of Angels (Nicholas Cage - [Midlife Transition:From Ambition to Meaning - Living in the Now](https://tonilamotta.com/from-ambition-to-meaning-living-in-the-now/) - "Thoroughly unprepared, we take the step into the afternoon of life; worse still, we take this step with the false presupposition that our truths and ideals will serve us as hitherto. But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning – for what was great in the morning will - [From an interview with Ram Dass: Be Love Now](https://tonilamotta.com/from-an-interview-with-ram-dass-be-love-now/) - Ram Dass: Beyond Awakening, November 28, 2010 Internet interview regarding his new book: Be Love Now the soul is filled with love it doesn’t feel the fear I register the situation the world situation and I feel that I’m going inside to manifest my peace I don’t get scared I’m not frightened I’m not frightened - [Technorati](https://tonilamotta.com/technorati/) - Technorati is helping me to claim this blog. The claim code is 3FXCU48CPEEK This blog is being recognized as a leader in Midlife Spirituality and Midlife Transition - [Coaching and Mentoring: Are the Generations Expectations Different?](https://tonilamotta.com/coaching-and-mentoring-are-the-generations-expectations-different/) - Coaching and Mentoring: Are the Generations Expectations Different? Matt M. Starcevich, Ph.D. (For individual usage only, not to be used in team building, organizational publications or training programs) With people living longer and staying in the workplace longer, four generations are likely to find themselves working together. Popular literature suggests that ones generation makes a - [A Gratitude Healing](https://tonilamotta.com/a-gratitude-healing/) - The beautiful gifts of gratitude begin at home so today, invite a healing to happen in your own body, in your own consciousness, in your own loving heart that feels blessed to be alive. Notice all the riches you've been given: the feet that allow you to stand, the legs that allow you to walk, - [From Judith and Jim - The Price of Gratitude](https://tonilamotta.com/from-judith-and-jim-the-price-of-gratitude/) - THE PRICE OF GRATITUDE Judith Sherven, PhD and Jim Sniechowski, PhD Long before we get to the table laden with turkey, cranberry sauce and over-sweet yams, we are face-to-face with the challenge of gratitude all month long. For most of the year we can duck and dodge the pressures of thankfulness, and most people do - [Great Advice for the Midlife Transition](https://tonilamotta.com/great-advice-for-the-midlife-transition/) - Incubating the Next Phase of the Awakening Journey By DL Zeta (I think all this equally applies to the Midlife Transition...) We offer here some steps to help navigate this time of incubation and discovery. 1) See yourself in the eyes of your higher self. Witness your imperfections and weaknesses from a place of love - [Gospel According to Starbucks](https://tonilamotta.com/gospel-according-to-starbucks/) - The Gospel According to Starbucks - Living with a Grande Passion, Leonard Sweet (This book has not been authorized by Starbucks Coffee Company Brewed for Thought – The Gospel According to Starbucks – introduces the life you’d gladly stand in line for……you don’t stand in line at Starbucks just to buy a cup of coffee. - [Midlife Crisis and Midlife Transition are not the same](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-crisis-and-midlife-transition-are-not-the-same/) - Articles and blog posts about midlife crisis and midlife crisis symptoms flood the Internet landscape. Studies show that fewer than 10% of the people in the United States had experienced psychological crises due to their age or aging, documented in a 1999 large scale research study. Male and female crises are not common, despite the - [Aging Parents](https://tonilamotta.com/aging-parents/) - In the past three weeks I've had numerous conversations with people who are taking care of aging parents. Just this morning I spoke with a friend who's been in and out of assisted living facilities, doctor's offices, and hospitals more times than he can count. Having been a fulltime caregiver for more than three - [The Midlife Transition: How do I find More JOY In My Life?](https://tonilamotta.com/8-ways-to-more-joy-in-your-life/) - I have recently come across an author whom I am enjoying. She doesn't talk directly about the Midlife Transition, but so much of what she says is relevant. by Aine Belton 1. Keep a JOY-DIARY or scheduler that includes daily/weekly joy-doses and joy-treats! (Or add these from your joy-list into an existing diary!). Write a - [Midlife transitions - Dancing at the movies...](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transitions-dancing-at-the-movies/) - [The Midlife Transition- looking back - to be a Kid Again](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-looking-back-to-be-a-kid-again/) - Oh, to Be a Kid Again Decisions were made by saying "eeny-meeny-miney-mo." Mistakes were corrected by simply exclaiming, "Do over!" "Race issue," meant arguing about who ran the fastest. Money issues were handled by whoever was the banker in "Monopoly." Catching fireflies could happily occupy an entire evening. It wasn't odd to have two or - [Awakening - The Shift is Happening](https://tonilamotta.com/awakening-the-shift-is-happening/) - [Poem for midlife transition by Hazrat Khan, Sufi Poet](https://tonilamotta.com/poem-for-midlife-transition-by-hazrat-khan-sufi-poet/) - Here's a passage that while true at any age, makes the most sense once your reached midlife... Sufi poem by Hazrat Inayar Khan I asked for strength and God gave me difficulties to make me strong. I asked for wisdom and God gave me problems to learn to solve. I asked for prosperity and God - [A Guide for Midlife: Navigating the Six Universal Crises](https://tonilamotta.com/a-guide-for-midlife-navigating-the-six-universal-crises/) - Midlife will occur differently to everyone but you now have the opportunity to change what can be a crisis into a more complete and purposeful life, says a new book, A Guide for Midlife - Navigating the Six Universal Crises, written by McKenzie Magee. "It is important to understand what a midlife crisis has to - [Radio interview with Dr. Toni LaMotta and Dr. Deborah Ivanoff](https://tonilamotta.com/radio-interview-with-dr-toni-lamotta-and-deborah-ivanoff/) - BlogTalk Radio with Deborah Ivanoff - [Compassion - a must see video](https://tonilamotta.com/compassion-a-must-see-video/) - [Soul Purpose - From Alan Cohen's A Deep Breath of Life](https://tonilamotta.com/soul-purpose-from-alan-cohens-a-deep-breath-of-life/) - The Main Thing The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing. -Anonymous The rascal Nasrudin stood on the bow of a boat next to a pompous intellectual who began to quiz him on his education. "Have you ever studied astronomy?" asked the professor. "I can't say that I have," answered the - [Midlife - Transition, Meaning and Soul Purpose](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-meaning-and-soul-purpose/) - t was interviewed by Dr. Deitre Payne on her radio show and I found myself saying some new things about midlife, meaning, transition and living your life and soul purpose. Have a listen and let me know what you think. http://tonilamotta.com/media-speaker.html - [Control Comes from Within](https://tonilamotta.com/control-comes-from-within/) - Your internal world -- the reality that you experience within your mind and emotions -- is a world that you and only you control and create. You may be able to manipulate your exterior world (ie: change jobs to get away from a bad boss, move to a new home to increase space, reshuffle your - [The Shadow Effect- important for Midlife Transition work](https://tonilamotta.com/shadow-debbie-ford-important-for-midlife-transition-work/) - Let’s Take Another Look at the Shadow Many of you have commented that you enjoyed the June feature on Debbie Ford’s work relating to the shadow effect. Here is more information and a fun quiz that can help you understand how your shadow may be operating in your life. “Today I will walk in the - [Midlife Transition - a Meditation](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-mastering-midlife-session/) - [Midlife Transition - it's a Process](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-its-a-process/) - Transformation is a process - and we need to be patient in the transitions - I have found that to especially true about the midlife transition. I like the word transition - but I don't always like the feeling! I love dragonflies and so, I've done a lot of research on them and have learned - [You Turn - a Great Book for Reinventing Yourself in Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/you-turn-a-great-book-for-reinventing-yourself-in-midlife/) - Watch the video then Order the book by clicking on the link that follows: You-Turn: Changing Direction in Midlife [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nAfLqNCRYZk&feature=related[/youtube] - [A New Pledge by David Ault](https://tonilamotta.com/a-new-pledge-by-david-ault/) - [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R3yinryKz0s&feature=player_embedded#![/youtube] - [Emotional Freedom and Independance.. a Midlife Promise](https://tonilamotta.com/emotional-freedom-and-independance-a-midlife-promise/) - I've been looking a lot lately at the concept of Shadow and how it appears in my (and everyone else's life) and how different life can be when we embrace it fully. Ok - so, I'm still working on this one! Debbie Ford, Oone of the authors I respect who writes about this (see her - [Recipe for a Happy Midlife Transition](https://tonilamotta.com/recipe-for-a-happy-midlife-transition/) - Ingredients: 1 part of knowing who you are 1 part of knowing who you are not 1 part of knowing what you want 1 part of knowing what you wish to be 1 part of knowing what you already have 1 part of choosing wisely from what you have 1 part of loving and thanking - [Midlife Transition: learning to live with the shadow](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-learning-to-live-with-the-shadow/) - I've been thinking a lot lately about what makes midlife so unique and challenging for so many people and I'm coming to see that it is the time in our lives when we most have to deal with our shadow self. Up to that point, many of us have ignored it, or lived through it! - [How Your Beliefs Affect Your Happiness](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transitionhow-your-beliefs-affect-your-happiness/) - By Gary Van Warmerdam Understanding the Mind As humans we live in two worlds. There is the external physical world of work, family and friends that we travel in. Then there is the world of our mind and imagination. It is a virtual reality that can at times appear and feel just as real. When - [Midlife Transition - Career Change](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-career-change/) - After working most of your adult life in the same field, there comes a time when two powerful words enter your mind: career change. And for working women considering a midlife transition, there’s a bit of advice Mark Twain left society about 100 years ago: “The secret of success is making your vocation your vacation.” - [Midlife Transformation](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transformation/) - Most of us would rather go through a Midlife Transformation rather than a Midlife Crisis. In fact, I don't believe we ever need to have a "CRISIS" when we understand the process of change. I have found help for this through a famous psychotherapist who taught several stages to change. Her name is Virginia Satir. - [Father's Day and Setting Priorites in Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/818-2/) - [youtube][/youtube] - [Do you ask WHY as part of your Midlife Transition?](https://tonilamotta.com/do-you-ask-why-as-part-of-your-midlife-transition/) - [Happiness may come with Age](https://tonilamotta.com/happiness-may-come-with-age-the-midlife-transition/) - It is inevitable. The muscles weaken. Hearing and vision fade. We get wrinkled and stooped. We can’t run, or even walk, as fast as we used to. We have aches and pains in parts of our bodies we never even noticed before. We get old. Well It sounds miserable, but apparently it is not. A - [Are You Having a Midlife Crisis?](https://tonilamotta.com/are-you-having-a-midlife-crisis/) - Are You Having a Midlife Crisis? Here's a great checklist. The presence of any or all of these things doesn't mean there is no hope. Actually, it can be a major opportunity to live life more fully. Divine Discontent Are you experiencing divine discontent? Is the lifestyle you've been living no longer serving you? It - [Male Midlife Crisis](https://tonilamotta.com/male-midlife-crisis/) - [Perks of being over 50 - Humor about Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/perks-of-being-over-50-midlife-transition/) - The perks of reaching 50 or being over 60 and heading towards 70! 01. Kidnappers are not very interested in you. 02. In a hostage situation you are likely to be released first. 03. No one expects you to run - anywhere. 04. People call at 9 pm and ask, did I wake you? 05. - [Songs for Your Midlife Transition: From Sam Joseph](https://tonilamotta.com/songs-for-your-midlife-transition-from-a-friend-on-facebook-sam-joseph/) - After our conversation, I began to think about which pieces of music would best suit your service. And since I don’t yet know a great deal about your Sunday services, I had to go a little on instinct, buoyed by your request for ‘lively’ music. So I decided to just ask the Universe what would - [Midlife Transition: The importance of self-love](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-the-importance-of-self-love/) - I received this this morning, and thought of everyone in mid-life who needs to experience more self-love - starting with me! It's about a new movie -Doors Opening - the message is from Cheryl Richardson... I've just finished the "I Can Do It" conference here in Toronto and, before I go to bed, I wanted - [What do Baby Boomers really want?](https://tonilamotta.com/what-do-baby-boomers-really-want/) - Baby Boomers make up a third of the U.S. population and over the last few years have reshaped North American culture. For any organization to thrive, it will have to be attuned to boomer values and lifestyle. We are the generation that in the 60’s believed we could change the world. And, perhaps we are - [What's Your Focus?](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-whats-your-focus/) - [Midlife and Aging - How Much Control Do we Have?](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-and-aging-how-much-control-do-we-have/) - Someone sent this to me with no author - it's from a no-name type of blog.. But, I thought it was worth sharing.. Recently, Parade Magazine did some great research on aging and Health in America. I’d like to summarize some of their results. The told us that the main concern about growing older is - [Midlife Transition - From Fate to Destiny](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-from-fate-to-destiny/) - I received this message today from Guru Singh and I think it is a perfect description of the midlife transition process... and an awesome way to understand how to avoid crisis.... More on this to come... Where you are actually located right now in this life is what is referred to as your fate . - [Your Soul at Work - an Excerpt](https://tonilamotta.com/your-soul-at-work-an-excerpt/) - Addressed with the right mindset, the following are stages of personal growth. The movement through the stages is a progression. As we pass from one stage to the next, often with some difficult periods of transition, we learn and mature in the process. If we acknowledge and work through the issues of each successive stage, - [Never too late...No Regrets](https://tonilamotta.com/never-too-late/) - [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JAwOZvvGsRs&feature=related[/youtube] - [Midlife Transition: Crisis or Opportunity?](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-crisis-or-opportunity/) - Midlife Crisis Or Midlife Opportunity? By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Colin_Hiles]Colin Hiles During middle years we can find ourselves experiencing five different 'wake up' calls. Each one has the potential to provide its own 'crisis'. The five crisis of mid-life are: 1. Cultural 2. Health 3. Relationship 4. Financial/Career 5. Existential Generally, I refer to midlife as the range - [Follow Your SOUL to Avoid Midlife Crisis](https://tonilamotta.com/follow-your-soul-to-avoid-midlife-crisis/) - 'Tis the Set of the Sail -- or -- One Ship Sails East Ella Wheeler Wilcox 1916 But to every mind there openeth, A way, and way, and away, A high soul climbs the highway, And the low soul gropes the low, And in between on the misty flats, The rest drift to and fro. - [Midlife Transition : 5 great books to read](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-5-great-books-to-read/) - 1. Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte Jane Eyre was the first novel that really moved me and surprised me as a woman. I think this is true for a lot of female readers. Jane Eyre is told from the point of view of a 12-year-old girl in a dreadful situation. She’s an orphan who is - [What's Life About - Finding Meaning in Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/whats-life-about-finding-meaning-in-midlife/) - [Radical Forgiveness - a story by Colin Tipping](https://tonilamotta.com/radical-forgiveness-a-story-by-colin-tipping/) - An extraordinarily inspiring and illuminating story from Colin Tipping's "Radical Forgiveness" book and website... By Colin Tipping As soon as I saw my sister at the Airport, I knew something was wrong. I could see she was in pain. Jill had flown from England to the United States with my brother John, who was stopping - [Peter Drucker - 10 Principles for Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life](https://tonilamotta.com/peter-drucker-10-principles-for-finding-meaning/) - Ten Principles for Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life by Peter F. Drucker as reported by Bob Buford, author of Finishing Well Thousands of successful business people reach middle age—and get the surprise of their life. They look around and instead of savoring their success, they wonder what it all means. While their - [Midlife Transition - The Shift From Ambition to Meaning](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-the-shift-from-ambition-to-meaning/) - [Coming to the Truth in Midlife and Beyond](https://tonilamotta.com/coming-to-the-truth-in-midlife-and-beyond/) - Make sure you watch this to the end... or it won't make sense... AWESSOME... - [Aging Fabulously - Interview with Marianne Williamson](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-aging-fabulously/) - Author Marianne Williamson on how getting older may be the most potent spiritual opportunity you've ever had. Interview by Valerie Reiss Marianne Williamson is a best-selling author, former minister, Course in Miracles teacher, speaker, and peace advocate. Now 55, she has turned her fierce yet compassionate gaze to conscious aging in her new book, "The - [What's a Soul? What does it mean to have Soul?](https://tonilamotta.com/whats-a-soul-what-does-it-mean-to-have-soul/) - [Avoiding Midlife Crisis: When Ambition Is Not Enough](https://tonilamotta.com/avoiding-midlife-crisis-when-ambition-is-not-enough/) - [Finding Meaning in the Afternoon of Life](https://tonilamotta.com/finding-meaning-in-the-afternoon-of-life/) - [Finding Meaning in Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/finding-meaning-in-midlife/) - [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=640BQNxB5mc[/youtube] - [Accepting Limits from Seth Godin's Great Blog...](https://tonilamotta.com/accepting-limits-from-seth-godins-great-blog/) - It's absurd to look at a three year old toddler and say, "this kid can't read or do math or even string together a coherent paragraph. He's a dolt and he's never going to amount to anything." No, we don't say that because we know we can teach and motivate and cajole the typical kid - [Quantum Change - Midlife Transition](https://tonilamotta.com/quantum-change-midlife-transition/) - One way of looking at the changes that take place in a man’s life over the years has been studied and reported in a book called Quantum Change by William R. Miller and Janet C’deBaca. THE STUDY They collected dozens of "before and after" tales from interviews, letters, and telephone calls. The stories they tell - [More thoughts on Midlife Transition](https://tonilamotta.com/more-thoughts-on-midlife-transition/) - FEAR OF TRANSFORMATION Sometimes I feel that my life is a series of trapeze swings. I'm either hanging on to a trapeze bar swinging along or, for a few moments in my life, I'm hurtling across space in between trapeze bars. Most of the time, I spend my life hanging on for dear life to - [Midlife Transition - in the words of T.S. Eliot](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-in-the-words-of-t-s-eliot/) - In the words of T.S. Eliot: ...In order to arrive at what you do not know You must go by a way which is the way of ignorance. In order to possess what you do not possess You must go by the way of dispossession. In order to arrive at what you are not You - [Ageing or Sageing?](https://tonilamotta.com/ageing-or-sageing/) - I'm writing a talk today about Ageing and started to do some Internet research about how other people view the passing of their years. I came across this blog post and while I hardly see the author as 'old' - (must be the place I'm looking from!) - I thought the questions she posed were - [Quite inspirational](https://tonilamotta.com/690-2/) - [Crabby Old Man - a poem worth reading](https://tonilamotta.com/crabby-old-man-a-poem-worth-reading/) - When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in North Platte, Nebraska, it was believed that he had nothing left of any value. Later, when the nurses were going through his meager possessions, they found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and - [Online Spiritual Life Coach for Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/online-spiritual-life-coach-for-midlife/) - What does it mean to be a spiritual life coach? And why is it different for those in midlife? I have found by working with people of all ages, that most people who haven't yet reached the age of at least 40, aren't yet ready to hear the spiritual truths that make a difference to - [Learning to Be Authentic by Guy Finley](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-learning-to-be-authentic-by-guy-finley/) - . Here's a great way to go about changing your life. Here is a particularly vital idea for those of us who are tired of finding ourselves a surprised victim of our own actions: in this world of ours response is request. We can slightly enlarge this idea by restating it this way: the way - [Midlife Transition: Changing the Way the World Views Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-changing-the-way-the-world-views-midlife/) - When Social Security first came into being in 1935, our life span was thought to be about 70 years at most. Now, we have learned so much medically and nutritionally that people are living far longer. In 1776, someone born in the US was expected to live to about 35. Lifestyle and technical advances have - [Best Midlife Transition Advice - Get Happy](https://tonilamotta.com/best-midlife-transition-advice-get-happy/) - [Mystic Ireland - a wonderful Trailer](https://tonilamotta.com/mystic-ireland-a-wonderful-trailer/) - [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E0SxKrGNyIE[/youtube] - [Silence of the Soul - a Meditation for Midlife Transition](https://tonilamotta.com/silence-of-the-soul-a-meditation-for-midlife-transition/) - Meditation Silence of the Soul See more presentations by gocush | Upload your own PowerPoint presentations - [Significance and Meaning in the Midlife Transition](https://tonilamotta.com/significance-and-meaning-in-the-midlife-transition/) - Google sends me updates when someone else writes about the midlife transition. This one particularly caught my attention, so I thought I'd share it with you today. It comes from a blog called The Fuel Depot.... It's so apropos to our soul conversation these days.. Security to Significance Yesterday, I had a wonderful lunch with - [What I've learned as an Online Spiritual Life Coach about the Mind and the Soul](https://tonilamotta.com/what-ive-learned-as-an-online-spiritual-life-coach-about-the-mind-and-the-soul/) - There's got to be something more than the mind at work when we are attempting to manifest our dreams or make changes in our life. If it were only the mind and the words we speak, we should instantly have whatever we want. Some tell us it's the vibration - the feeling that really matters. - [A perspective on Suffering](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-a-perspective-on-suffering/) - I've been thinking lately about the suffering people go through, myself included. I like to think, and I truly believe that we create our own reality, and according to the law of attraction, we bring things into our life because somehow we believe them to be the natural order of things.. at least on an - [The Shift - Wayne Dyer talks about The Midlife Transition](https://tonilamotta.com/the-shift-wayne-dyer-talks-about-the-midlife-transition/) - Last year I had the opportunity to hear Wayne Dyer speak at a Hay House event in Tampa. They showed a brief excerpt from the movie they were about to produce. At the time, it was called, "From Ambition to Meaning". That certainly caught my attention, because I've been talking about spirituality in midlife and - [Entering the Castle - Carolyn Myss - a Midlife book?](https://tonilamotta.com/entering-the-castle-carolyn-myss-a-midlife-book/) - I'm currently reading Carolyn Myss' Entering the Castle and it's exciting on so many levels. First of all, many years ago, I studied the works of the mystic, Teresa of Avila and so, it is reminding me of so many deep experiences of long ago. Secondly, Carolyn talks about the soul in ways that I've - [The Secret - (not the one you think) - Change your life in midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/the-secret-not-the-one-you-think-change-your-life-in-midlife/) - bb - [Howard Thurman - moments of high resolve](https://tonilamotta.com/howare-thurman-moments-of-high-resolve/) - By Howard Thurman Keep fresh before me The moments of my high resolve Despite the dullness and barrenness of the days that pass, if I search with due diligence, I can always find a deposit left by some former radiance. But I had forgotten. At the time it was full-orbed, glorious and resplendent. I was - [Spiritual Support in Midlife - Tapping into Soul WIsdom](https://tonilamotta.com/spiritual-support-in-midlife-tapping-into-soul-wisdom/) - Lately, I've been thinking a lot about the soul and how different it is from mind. I've spent so many years studying how the mind works and how we can 'control' or not control the mind. I've studied manifestation techniques and tools to free the mind of beliefs. A lot of it has been very - [Spiritual transformation instead of 'midlife crisis'](https://tonilamotta.com/spiritual-transformation-instead-of-midlife-crisis/) - “The heart has reasons that reason knows not of”…Blaise Pascal The soul has plans the mind cannot fathom… I do believe in mental science – but I have come to understand that that is not the whole picture… well, sort of – The conscious mind must feed the subconscious – but the subconscious is where - [Spiritual Counselor reflects on Soul Purpose in Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/spiritual-counselor-reflects-on-soul-purpose-in-midlife/) - Today, I have decided to finally begin sharing the things that have been going through my mind lately. I have no real certainty of these ideas yet - except that they keep wanting to be told. I've actually begun a new book so I can explore them further. Thanks for reading this - and I'd - [How well do you deal with Change in Midlife?](https://tonilamotta.com/how-well-do-you-deal-with-change-in-midlife/) - [Aging - reflections for midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/579-2/) - I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or - [Will Smith - Profound Wisdom](https://tonilamotta.com/will-smith-profound-wisdom/) - [Achieving Goals - at Midlife.. Positive strategies that can help](https://tonilamotta.com/achieving-goals-at-midlife-positive-strategies-that-can-help/) - I’ve provided several positive thought strategies to help you overcome negative patterns that have prevented you from achieving your goals in the past. Choose several you feel will help you most and incorporate them into your daily life. Write down these strategies and remind yourself to pause and change your way of thinking each time - [Barbara DeAngelis HOW DID I GET HERE? excerpt](https://tonilamotta.com/barbara-deangelis-how-did-i-get-here-excerpt/) - Finding Your Way To Renewed Hope and Happiness When Life and Love Take Unexpected Turns By Barbara De Angelis Ph.D. Copyright 2005 Barbara De Angelis All of us find ourselves, at one time or another in our lives, facing the unexpected. We arrive at places we never planned to be, confronting obstacles we did not - [What does Prosperity mean to you?](https://tonilamotta.com/what-does-prosperity-mean-to-you/) - [2010: The Destination of Your Dreams by Debbie Ford](https://tonilamotta.com/2010-the-destination-of-your-dreams-by-debbie-ford/) - It's so easy to make promises about the year ahead. You will follow your diet, be more financially responsible, be kinder to your spouse, spend more time at the gym...But, for most, the promises you make today will be empty dreams six months from now. So let's examine this. I would suggest this happens because - [Messages from the Universe](https://tonilamotta.com/messages-from-the-univers/) - [Renee Morgan Brooks - sharing her gift...](https://tonilamotta.com/renee-morgan-brooks-sharing-her-gift/) - [Midlife Transition: Getting Clear On Your Passion](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-getting-clear-on-your-passion/) - Getting Clear On Your Passion If you’re clear on your passions, then you’re just about ready to walk The Path. But what if you’re NOT clear? What if you’re one of the many people I meet who feels completely disconnected from their sense of Passion? What if when asked to describe your “ideal life” or - [Excuses be-gone ...what's stopping you at midlife?](https://tonilamotta.com/excuses-be-gone-whats-stopping-you-at-midlife/) - [When Midlife Gets You Down...watch this Monty Python](https://tonilamotta.com/when-midlife-gets-you-down-watch-this-monty-python/) - [HOW TO STAY YOUNG](https://tonilamotta.com/how-to-stay-young/) - 1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay them. 2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down. 3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. 'An idle mind is the devil's - [Great Midlife Philosophy...by Charles Schulz](https://tonilamotta.com/great-midlife-philosophy-by-charles-schulz/) - The Charles Schulz Philosophy (Scroll thru slowly and read carefully to receive and enjoy full effect) The following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip. You don't have to actually answer the questions. Just read the e-mail straight through, and you'll get the point. 1. Name the five wealthiest - [GENERATIONAL TRAITS](https://tonilamotta.com/generational-traits/) - A generation is a group defined by age boundaries. They have: Shared experiences growing up Similar workplace values and attitudes GENERATION BORN CURRENT AGE DEFINING ERA Matures (Radio Babies) 1920-40 70-90 The Depression/WW2 Boomers 1940-60 50-70 Prosperity/Upheaval Generation X 1960-80 30-50 Technology Millennials (Gen Y) 1980-2000 <30 Communication CORE VALUES MATURES (aka: Radio Babies, The - [Charter of Compassion - what I stand for....](https://tonilamotta.com/charter-of-compassion-what-i-stand-for/) - The principle of compassion lies at the heart of all religious, ethical and spiritual traditions, calling us always to treat all others as we wish to be treated ourselves. Compassion impels us to work tirelessly to alleviate the suffering of our fellow creatures, to dethrone ourselves from the centre of our world and put another - [Wayne Dyer](https://tonilamotta.com/wayne-dyer/) - Do you know what your life’s purpose is? Is your life right now filled with meaning and happiness? Whether you know it now or not, you are only a thought away from changing your life. Many of us are yearning to lead a life of purpose and contribution, and that’s why I'm so grateful to - [Midlife questions - on the Purpose of Your Life?](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-questions-on-the-purpose-of-your-life/) - A candid street interview that asks the question, "What is your purpose in life?" to many people. Answers ranging from many different purposes and desires often share a few common themes: survival, happiness, and uncertainty. This video seeks to invoke the same question on its viewers: What is your purpose in life? - [How to Change Your Life in Midlife - End of the Day Questions](https://tonilamotta.com/how-to-change-your-life-in-midlife-end-of-the-day-questions/) - A few END-OF-THE-DAY questions for YOU! Did I make someone giggle, smile or laugh today? Did I take the time to really listen to someone today, with rapt attention, as if nothing else mattered in that precious moment but the words they spoke and the look in their eyes? Did I allow myself to focus - [Finding ourselves in Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/finding-ourselves-in-midlife/) - The pain of remembrance of Self dreams and aspirations that have long been taken, washed away in a river of doubt. Trying to swim through the current of resistance of giving breath and life to what a heart is calling one to do. Can that rock be lifted and unblock the passion? Can those weeds - [How to be Happy](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-message-about-how-to-be-happy/) - If you want happiness for an hour - take a nap. If you want happiness for a day - go fishing. If you want happiness for a month - get married. If you want happiness for a year - inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime - help someone else. ~ Chinese - [15 Midlife Reinvention Tips From the Masters of Change](https://tonilamotta.com/15-midlife-reinvention-tips-from-the-masters-of-change/) - by Stephanie von Hirschberg Editor From MORE Magazine MSNBC's Mika Brzezinski staged a lively interview with the Ephron sisters, Nora (middle) and Delia. A stellar cast of change experts—Laura Bush, Nora Ephron and Delia Ephron among them—gathered on October 5 at More’s 2009 Reinvention Convention to inspire, advise and share their personal journeys. Here are - [Never give up on LOVE](https://tonilamotta.com/never-give-up-on-love/) - AGAIN AND AGAIN I Bring Myself To Love Again and Again If you've ever felt like a failure at love, you know that love doesn't give up beckoning. It wants you. It wants you to change your mind about yourself and about love. It doesn't matter how many times you've failed at love. It doesn't - [How to Change the Life You're Giving Yourself](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-how-to-change-the-life-youre-giving-yourself/) - We meet life, with all of its complex relationships, through what we know. Each daily event, with its dozens of unsuspected twists and turns, challenges us to come up with our best answers. Once our most suitable answer is at hand, we launch it and ourselves into action and watch to see what happens. With each situation this challenge and response process is repeated over and over again, until the condition resolves itself for us, either favorably or not. - [Are You Hearing What I'm Saying? -- 10 Tips That Will Help You Improve Your Listening Skills](https://tonilamotta.com/are-you-hearing-what-im-saying-10-tips-that-will-help-you-improve-your-listening-skills/) - - By Sharon L. Mikrut Ernest Hemingway once said "When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen." How true that is. How many times has someone asked you how you were, but doesn't take the time to listen to your response? They may cut you off, start talking about themselves, or walk away. If - [Upcoming Seminar on The Midlife Makeover series](https://tonilamotta.com/upcoming-seminar-on-the-midlife-makeover-series/) - [Prayer to End Conflict](https://tonilamotta.com/prayer-to-end-conflict/) - "How do they live for eons in such harmony - the billions of stars - When most men can barely go a minute without declaring war in their mind against someone they know. There are wars where no one marches with a flag, though that does not keep casualties from mounting. Our hearts irrigate the - [The Law of Gratitude](https://tonilamotta.com/the-law-of-gratitude/) - One of the most empowering things you can do for yourself is to appreciate who you are and what you have. You might even take your gratitude as far as being thankful for your problems, because therein lies the opportunity to grow. The process is called, counting your blessings. If you will create a list - [Leading and Marketing to Baby Boomers and Others](https://tonilamotta.com/leading-and-marketing-to-baby-boomers-and-others/) - How Do You Lead 4 Generations In The Workplace? Very Carefully! For the first time we now have four generations in the workplace?presenting interesting challenges and opportunities to leaders, managers, and their teams. It is important to understand the nature of these challenges as we present a brief overview of traits specific to each generation. - [Moments of Awe - message from Kabir](https://tonilamotta.com/moments-of-awe-message-from-kabir/) - I was reading words of Kabir, the 12th-century Indian mystic,who said: ?When we say, ?Ahhhhh!? and say it with a deep sigh? -- the kind of exclamation that comes from our depths whenever we witness some aspect of the world?s blessing -- ?that ?Ahhhhh!? is one of God?s most beautiful names.? - [Midlife Crisis Avoided - by The Astonishing Power of Gratitude](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-crisis-avoided-by-the-astonishing-power-of-gratitude/) - There's a ton of material out there teaaching you how to be successful– both on line and off line. I’m sure you’ve heard about the need for a clear vision, a strong belief, a good understanding of human behavior and the principles of influence, and copywriting skills. If you’re like me, you’ve probably got - [Midlife Crisis - ways to avoid it...thoughts as we age](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-crisis-ways-to-avoid-it-thoughts-as-we-age/) - "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:" 1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good. 2. When in doubt, just take the next small step. 3. - [Mary Morrisey on the Path of Forgiveness](https://tonilamotta.com/mary-morrisey-on-the-path-of-forgiveness/) - Every one of us must walk the path of forgiveness. We don’t get out of this life without that curriculum. There’s not one person who doesn’t have the experience of betrayal. 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It - [How to Change Your Life - and Make Midlife the Best Time of Your Life](https://tonilamotta.com/how-to-change-your-life-and-make-midlife-the-best-time-of-your-life/) - A long time ago someone gave me great advice. They said, "Look back rather than ahead when you want to see what you have accomplished. If you want to know how to change your life, it can't be because you are looking ahead and feeling like something is missing. Midlife is a pivotal time in - [Grow Old with Dogs](https://tonilamotta.com/grow-old-with-dogs/) - When I am old... I will wear soft gray sweatshirts... and a bandana over my silver hair..... and I will spend my social security checks on wine and my dogs. I will sit in my house on my well-worn chair and listen to my dogs' breathing. I will sneak out in the middle of a - [Midlife Crisis or Transition - They're Playing Your Song](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-crisis-or-transition-theyre-playing-your-song/) - One of my favorite stories that I believe applies particularly to those of us in midlife, is about an African tribe. It's all about learning to sing your own song or show your own colors -- two of the major themes I speak about in my keynotes to organizations. Here is a place I originally - [Will Your Dream Happen? Two Determining Factors.](https://tonilamotta.com/will-your-dream-happen-two-determining-factors/) - The Teller of Life A middle-aged man walked into a bank, he approached the teller and asked, “Will you cash this check?” The teller looked at the check and said, “Well sure, I can cash the check, just put your name on the back of it, hand it to me, and I will give you - [Midlife Crisis - Choose to be Happy Instead](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-crisis-choose-to-be-happy-instead/) - "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." ~ Abraham Lincoln One day recently, I woke up feel less than joyfully connected to life. Nothing special caused this feeling. I just didn't focus on anything in particular and so, old 'stuff' began to creep into my consciousness and I - [Midlife Women - Dressing Your Truth](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-women-dressing-your-truth/) - I hope I didn’t shock you but I am BURNING with this topic right now! My heart aches, my mind is spinning with ideas and I had to talk to you! Men, if you are reading this please accept my apologies- or maybe…. not. Maybe you’ll see the sense in what I am about to - [Midlife Transition: Finding the Reasons why](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-finding-the-reasons-why/) - Below are some possible examples of why you may create or allow 'negative' experiences in your life. * Subconscious limiting beliefs you hold in the given area that are dictating your experience. * Ego payoffs/agendas (blame, self-righteousness, victimhood, pity, power-struggle, judgment, martyrhood etc.) * Revenge -any failure, heartbreak or painful experience may be a subconscious - [Learning to Live in the Flow](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-is-learning-to-live-in-the-flow/) - Water is the perfect non-resistant element. We can see where it has worn away even the hardest rock. You can go to the Grand Canyon and be stunned and amazed by the power of non-resistance over time. We have also seen water sweep everything before it in torrential outburst, bridges, buildings, trees; nothing can withstand - [Thoughts on Forgiveness by Noel McGinness](https://tonilamotta.com/thoughts-on-forgiveness-by-noel-mcginness-international-forgiveness-week/) - Please do not believe me if ever I should say that you've upset me. Sometimes I forget the true source of my feelings. You cannot make me sad, impatient, angry, or otherwise dis-eased. Only a hope or expectation of you on my part, which you have not fulfilled, can move me thus. Yet I am - [Transforming a Misperception](https://tonilamotta.com/transforming-a-misperception/) - We all know what it feels like to want something we don’t have. It may be a pair of expensive jeans, a romantic partner, or rent money; it may be a certain attitude, a car, or a savings account. This is part of life, and in the best-case scenario, we experience a constant flow of - [Baby Boomers in Midlife Transition - How do You Handle Challenges?](https://tonilamotta.com/baby-boomers-in-midlife-transition-how-do-you-handle-challenges/) - How do you handle Challenges? If you're like most people I know, you face them squarely, and Do whatever it takes to handle them. You take action even if you aren't sure what to do. That's who you are. At least a large part of you. But what about that part that isn't sure? You - [Asking -Is that all there is - in Midlife?](https://tonilamotta.com/asking-is-that-all-there-is-in-midlife/) - I am about to reveal an incredible secret about your dreams that is so unexpected, so astounding that I am confident you have never heard about it before. Read it, absorb it, use it, and soon you'll be on the road to a new kind of fortune few will ever know. Make your deepest wish - [Importance of Friendship in Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/importance-of-friendship-in-midlife/) - You've gotten pretty good at going to the gym -- you also keep the diet reasonable and quit smoking years ago. And you worry about the diseases that have shown up in your family, particularly if there is heart disease or cancer. Or you feel pretty good if your ancestry is filled with people who - [Midlife Transition & the Real Secret to Success](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-the-real-secret-to-success/) - Googled 'secret to success' and I came up with over 617,000 listings! Some secret! In fact, I know I've written more than one article on the subject myself. Yet I'm still learning and still pressing the Universe for answers to the deepest questions, especially those that plague most of us at the midlife transition. Midlife, - ["Making Time for the Things You Love" Ali Brown](https://tonilamotta.com/making-time-for-the-things-you-love-ali-brown/) - Keeping up with business and social engagements sometimes means sacrificing our personal hobbies and relaxation time. But making time for ourselves, even on a busy day, can and will help us feel better and function better. Although it's admirable to spend time taking care of work, friends, family, and pets, it's even more important to - [Busting Loose From the Business Game - great new book](https://tonilamotta.com/busting-loose-from-the-business-game-great-new-book/) - I'm writing today with some important news and to let you know about a window of opportunity that's opening this week. Are you struggling in your business or career right now -- as an owner or employee (or maybe temporarily unemployed)? Are you doing well or "OK" but you want to do better? Are you - [A Tribute to Michael Jackson - by Deepak Chopra](https://tonilamotta.com/a-tribute-to-michael-jackson-by-deepak-chopra/) - Michael Jackson will be remembered, most likely, as a shattered icon, a pop genius who wound up a mutant of fame. That's not who I will remember, however. His mixture of mystery, isolation, indulgence, overwhelming global fame, and personal loneliness was intimately known to me. For twenty years I observed every aspect, and as easy - [The Midlife Transition - No more resistance](https://tonilamotta.com/moving-beyond-resistance-part-of-the-midlife-transition/) - Resistance at Work If you are resisting success it's probably not obvious to you because resistance is an inner process. It's part of a mindset that is rooted in the subconscious. However, if you are not achieving the thing you say you want, are working too hard at it, or not enjoying the process, resistance - [Marketing to Baby Boomers](https://tonilamotta.com/marketing-to-baby-boomers/) - There's so much that we can learn about marketing to the large population of baby boomers out there. I've come across several great articles that I'd like to share here. The first is an article by Jim Gilmartin that talks about the way that older adults minds process information and how that differs from younger - [Changing your vibration - and change your life](https://tonilamotta.com/changing-your-vibration-and-beliefs-in-midlife/) - 10 Ways To Raise Your Vibration By Aine Belton Below are some timeless tips that will help you raise your vibration to enhance your manifesting success and connect more to the radiant truth of your being and the bountiful nature of reality. 1. Take Responsibility As James Allen says, "Circumstance does not make a man, - [Fear to Faith - a Process to Change Beliefs in Midlife and beyond](https://tonilamotta.com/fear-to-faith-a-process-to-change-beliefs-in-midlife-and-beyond/) - Moving from Fear to Faith Most of our inactions in life are based on fear, whether conscious or unconscious. Sometimes we can trace specific fears to certain incidents that happened early in life, and it often helps to do that, although it is not always necessary. Most of us have probably picked up some subset - [Baby Boomers -Growing Older - over 50](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-baby-boomers-growing-older-over-50/) - Actresses and authors join forces to celebrate ‘honest, empowering’ book on growing older Some of the world’s most beautiful female celebrities over the age of 50 are making a public plea for women to stop their fight for eternal youth. Isabella Rossellini, Jane Fonda and Gloria Steinem, among others, have been inspired by 50 is - [Baby Boomers - Keeping Our Minds Supple](https://tonilamotta.com/baby-boomers-and-the-midlife-transition-keeping-our-minds-supple/) - This is an article from Daily Om -- something I read frequently. Questioning Everything A lot of people feel threatened if they feel they are being asked to question their cherished beliefs or their perception of reality. Yet questioning is what keeps our minds supple and strong. Simply settling on one way of seeing things - [Excuses Be Gone by Dr. Wayne Dyer](https://tonilamotta.com/excuses-be-gone-by-dr-wayne-dyer/) - Midlife is an awesome opportunity to see if what you have been producing in life is what you want to continue to experience. invest the time to review the excerpt from Dr. Wayne Dyer's brand new book "Excuses Be Gone" and then get your copy now by clicking the link that follows. Excuses Begone!: How - [Paul Hawken Commencement Address](https://tonilamotta.com/paul-hawken-commencement-address/) - Paul Hawken is a renowned entrepreneur, visionary environmental activist, founder of Wiser Earth and author of many books -- most recently Blessed Unrest. Last week, he was presented with an honorary doctorate of humane letters by University of Portland, when he delivered this superb commencement address. Commencement Address to the Class of 2009 University of - [Warning - this article may shock you... The John Edwards Affair](https://tonilamotta.com/warning-this-article-may-shock-you-the-john-edwards-affair/) - The John Edwards Affair If I had known earlier what I have just learned from reading excerpts, in Newsweek, taken from Elizabeth Edwards' recently released book, I would have gone out and put money on the absolute inevitability of her husband's infidelity. I am quite certain that John Edwards had no choice in the matter. - [Fox News on Twitter and Spirituality](https://tonilamotta.com/fox-news-on-twitter-and-spirituality/) - [Midlife Marketers - It's time to change how you market - using Heart](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-marketers-its-time-to-change-how-you-market-using-heart/) - As you know I'm very careful about what I recommend to you. If you market ANYTHING this book . . . The Heart of Marketing Love Your Customers and They Will Love You Back (Morgan James Publishing) . . . is a MUST read for the future of your marketing and the growth of your - [Change in Midlife to -Soft Sell Marketing — Persuasion in Plain View](https://tonilamotta.com/change-in-midlife-to-soft-sell-marketing-persuasion-in-plain-view/) - By Judith Sherven, PhD and Jim Sniechowski, PhD This afternoon I (Jim) began reading a book on subliminal persuasion. It’s not the first persuasion book I’ve read, but it is the first with an emphasis on subliminal. And it goes against everything Judith and I believe in as Soft Sell marketers and advocates for the - [An excerpt from The Heart of Marketing - Spiritual Service](https://tonilamotta.com/an-excerpt-from-the-heart-of-marketing-spiritual-service-one-of-the-goals-of-the-midlife-transition/) - #8 How can you say that selling is spiritual service? Earlier we shared with you how Jim discovered the idea that selling is spiritual service. But that concept may seem foreign to you, even impossible. So what we've said bears repeating. Now we go more deeply into what we mean by Selling Is Spiritual Service. - [A Life That Makes a Difference](https://tonilamotta.com/a-life-that-makes-a-difference/) - Steve Goodier Copyright 2008 by Steve Goodier. All rights reserved. "How do you account for your remarkable accomplishment in life?" Queen Victoria of England asked Helen Keller. "How do you explain the fact that even though you were both blind and deaf, you were able to accomplish so much?" Ms. Keller's answer is a tribute - [Midlife Moments - this is old but worth a re-read](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-moments-this-is-old-but-worth-a-re-read/) - Recently, I was diagnosed with A. A. A. D. D. - Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder. If this isn't you yet, your day is coming! This is how it manifests: I decide to wash my car. As I start toward the garage, I notice that there is mail on the hall table. I decide to - [Great questions for midlife from an anonymous writer](https://tonilamotta.com/great-questions-for-midlife-from-an-anonymous-writer/) - With all that is going on in the world I started pondering and came up with 12 important questions to ask myself, and I decided to share them with you. 1. What is your life purpose? Are you here just to exist and then die, or have you chosen to live your life doing something - [How Much is Enough? - Abundance means different things in midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/how-much-is-enough-abundance-means-different-things-in-midlife/) - I’m always looking at the ways people reinvent themselves and how they live. One of my mantras in life has been “how much is enough”. It seems that most of us never feel like we are enough, or have enough. I’m also clear that it is the very nature of our spirit to grow and - [Baby Boomers and the Midlife Transition - Finding Joy in the Process of Ageing](https://tonilamotta.com/baby-boomers-and-the-midlife-transition-finding-joy-in-the-process-of-ageing/) - If you are in midlife, I'm sure you have noticed by now how advertising, marketing and media are all geared towards youth. I believe we are about to see a change in all that as boomers age and the ratios of young to old begin to shift. In the meantime, so many of us keep - [Choosing a Spiritual Path - Part of the Midlife Transition](https://tonilamotta.com/choosing-a-spiritual-path-part-of-the-midlife-transition/) - I read sometime back about an architect who designed and built an office 'campus' complex. He did not put in any sidewalks, or footpaths between the buildings. He just planted grass and waited with patience. After a few months there were well trodden paths between all of the buildings, which he used as the map - [Jane Seymour, Dr. Quinn makes a Midlife Transition](https://tonilamotta.com/340-2/) - What do you do for a second act after winning an Emmy, a Golden Globe and being awarded the Order of the British Empire from Queen Elizabeth? Actress Jane Seymour has an interesting approach. Read more here. - [The One Problem That Holds You Back](https://tonilamotta.com/the-one-problem-that-holds-you-back/) - This is one of the BEST books I've ever read -- I'm on the third time through!! Dr. Toni *** Book Excerpt: The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level - By Gay Hendricks *** --------------------------------------------------- I call it the Upper Limit Problem, and I haven't met a person - [Enjoying Your Age - Appreciating What is in Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/enjoying-your-age-appreciating-what-is-in-midlife/) - From Daily Om... In each stage of life, there are wonderful experiences one can savor and valuable insights one can absorb. Every new decade and, in fact, every new year brings with it wisdom, transformation, and growth, as well as ends and beginnings. Many people, however, believe that there is one age that eclipses the - [Midlife Transition Message from Nature & Trees](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-message-from-nature-trees/) - One of the most profound spiritual teachers in life is Nature itself. It can teach us a great deal about the midlife transition. Being in nature can bring calmness and centeredness and a relaxation found no where else. But nature can be an amazing mirror, inspiring and teaching us. When you learn to look closely, - [in honor of Erma Bombeck - Doing Midlife Differently](https://tonilamotta.com/in-honor-of-erma-bombeck-doing-midlife-differently/) - IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER - by Erma Bombeck (written after she found out she was dying from cancer) this is great advice on how to Change your life - right now- don't wait for a diagnosis or the 'right time'- Do it NOW. Here are her words: I would have gone - [From Midlife Crisis to Midlife Transition- 5 things you can do NOW](https://tonilamotta.com/from-midlife-crisis-to-midlife-transition-5-things-you-can-do-now/) - There are several things you can do to be sure that what could be a mid-life crisis is actually an opportunity for transformation. It is not inevitable to be in 'crisis' and the symptoms are not all just physical. Here are five ways you can change a crisis to an experience that is transforming: 1. - [Midlife Ignored? -Why Do Employers Hire Younger Workers?](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-ignored-why-do-employers-hire-younger-workers/) - There’s an interesting New York Times piece on why employers prefer to hire younger workers over older workers. It’s definitely worth reading. Weighing in on the question are: Peter Cappelli of Wharton School, Alicia H. Munnell of the Center for Retirement Research, Laurence J. Kotlikoff, a Boston University economist, Teresa Ghilarducci of the New School - [Midlife Transition - Successful Reinvention prevents Midlife Crisis](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-successful-reinvention-prevents-midlife-crisis/) - There are certain rules and principles that seemed to make sense in the past, during a time when reason and logic ruled. But today, in a very chaotic and ever changing world, evolutionary extinction is a constant real threat. In order to facilitate desirable change, we need to think seriously about creating the right set - [More by Wally Minto and the Results Book](https://tonilamotta.com/more-by-wally-minto-and-the-results-book/) - “Human beings would rather go through life being right doing the wrong thing that to go through life being wrong doing the right thing…Why is it so difficult to change your habits, your comfort zones? It is because nearly all of your brain cell patterns are baesd on right and wrong. You see, if you - [A taste of advice that can solve ANY problem - Midlife or otherwise](https://tonilamotta.com/a-taste-of-advice-that-can-solve-any-problem-midlife-or-otherwise/) - Minto wrote, in The Results Book: Your brain operates under the law, as you believe so shall it be done. Your brain is a computer-like guidance mechanism and it guides you according to the beliefs you have programmed it with. However, there are different degrees of belief. What are some of the things you believe - [Some Humor about Aging and Weddings](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-transition-some-humor-about-aging-and-weddings/) - Jacob, age 92, and Rebecca, age 89, living in Ken-Dead(Dade) Condo in Miami, are all excited about their decision to get married. They go for a stroll to discuss the wedding, and on the way they pass a CVS/Pharmacy.. Jacob suggests they go in. Jacob addresses the man behind the counter: 'Are you the Pharmacist - [Mid-life Transition: Or 'The painful process of maturing?'](https://tonilamotta.com/mid-life-transition-or-the-painful-process-of-maturing/) - by Steve Myers This article describes the process of mid-life transition - sometimes called 'mid-life crisis' - through the eyes of Myers Briggs. The page assumes that the reader has a good knowledge of the Myers Briggs model of personality. 'Mid-life transition' is something that happens to many of us at some point during our - [Mid-life Transition](https://tonilamotta.com/mid-life-transition/) - Mid-Life Transition "Mid-life is when many people begin to experience breakdowns of the body. It needn't be that way - if you follow a healthy lifestyle in order to protect your body's healing system and maintain optimum health as you age." -- Dr. Andrew Weil "Mid-life transition" is something that happens to many of us - [Reinvent Yourself in Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/reinvent-yourself-in-midlife/) - Do you like your life the way it is? Would you like to change some, or all of it? Well, here’s good news: You can be whatever you want to be. You can re-invent yourself. I know because I did! You may have a whole lifetime to undo or re-invent, but if you are determined, - [The Midlife of a Corporation - a sample](https://tonilamotta.com/the-midlife-of-a-corporation-a-sample/) - Toni - [Sixties Women say "Finally, Me First" - Life After Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/sixties-women-say-finally-me-first-life-after-midlife/) - Sixties Women Want Others to Know I want time for me--you need to wait. I want to have lots of passion and purpose in my life. I want to relax instead of and worrying about what you think and what you want. I dream of things I have not done yet; I do not want - [Midlife - Forties Women Want Others to Know](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-forties-women-want-others-to-know/) - Forties Women say "Stop the clock, I want to get off!" I am worried that my time to be who I really want to be is running out. I am often torn between what I want and what others want from me. I want to have passion and purpose in my life but I'm too - [What Women Want Others to Know... leading up to Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/what-women-want-others-to-know-leading-up-to-midlife/) - Twenties Women are fearfully young and glowing. Twenties Women Want Others to Know I am intelligent and I have much to offer. Take me seriously and teach me what you want me to know. I am passionate about my life and what I can offer the world. I am afraid I will not be able - [Five Daily Self Improvement Practices to Change Your Life](https://tonilamotta.com/five-daily-self-improvement-practices-to-change-your-life/) - - By Warren Wojnowski As a student of personal development and self improvement, you've no doubt come to the understanding that everything you achieve in life is fundamentally determined by your thinking. Thoughts are real things, which lead to a feeling, which lead to an action, which lead to an outcome. This is the basis - [Law of Attraction - by Joe Vitale](https://tonilamotta.com/law-of-attraction-by-joe-vitale/) - I just read a wonderful post by Joe Vitale on his blog... ENJOY... http://blog.mrfire.com/loa/how-to-attract-anything/ - [Women at Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/women-at-midlife/) - Women at midlife remain an oddly invisible group. Despite the strides they have made in living lives of meaning and power, youth still reigns supreme, as most popular TV shows and magazine covers attest. A new book published by the National Association of Social Workers (NASW), Women at Midlife: Life Experiences and Implications for the - [Rampage of Appreciation - Make It Your Own](https://tonilamotta.com/rampage-of-appreciation-make-it-your-own/) - Today I am outrageously grateful for the beauty that abounds and surrounds me. I truly feel that I'm a blessed being surrounded by other blessed beings. I move freely and easily through my life experience and for that I am grateful as I know I created that ease. I acknowledge how powerful I am because - [A Feng Shui view of my home office - is this about Midlife too?](https://tonilamotta.com/a-feng-shui-view-of-my-home-office-is-this-about-midlife-too/) - Many modern enthusiasts claim that feng shui is the practice of arranging objects (such as furniture) to help people achieve their goals. More traditionally, feng shui is important in choosing a place to live and finding a burial site, along with agricultural planning. I'm always out looking for ways to get publicity and so I - [Reclaiming the Magical Feminine in Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/reclaiming-the-magical-feminine-in-midlife/) - Susan Schachterle's The Bitch, The Crone, and The Harlot You were born complete; everything you need to be an extraordinary individual, and to live in an extraordinary way, you carried with you into life. I remember so well the moment at which I first began to grasp this. A man I had loved wildly had - [George Carlin on Age - Baby Boomers take note](https://tonilamotta.com/george-carlin-on-age-baby-boomers-take-note/) - Do you realize that the only time in our lives when we like to get old is when we're kids? If you're less than 10 years old, you're so excited about aging that you think in fractions. "How old are you?" "I'm four and a half!" You're never thirty-six and a half. You're four and - [Dear Heart, Come Home: The Path of Midlife Spirituality](https://tonilamotta.com/dear-heart-come-home-the-path-of-midlife-spirituality/) - Midlife is more than a crisis. It is a summons to grow and a challenge to change. Midlife beckons one inward. It is a move to interiority, a passage to the deeper places where we discover our authenticity, where we realize both our limitations and our grandeur. It is here that we come home to - [Midlife Women: Unlocking the Secret Pleasures of Menopause](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-women-unlocking-the-secret-pleasures-of-menopause/) - Physician-author Christiane Northrup tells women that midlife can be a good thing, especially for those who boost their nitric oxide and foster their sexuality. By Kathleen Doheny WebMD Feature Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD As an obstetrician-gynecologist, Christiane Northrup, MD, of Yarmouth, Maine, has spent years caring for women when something went wrong with their - [How To Redesign - Midlife can be your Best Life](https://tonilamotta.com/how-to-redesign-2009-midlife-can-be-your-best-life/) - I wanted to share this wonderful work from Dennis Merrit Jones -- one of my favorite authors...: I couldn't have said it better... “Life is a blackboard upon which we consciously or unconsciously write those messages which govern us. We hold the chalk and the eraser in our hand but are ignorant of this fact. - [Spirituality and Midlife Crisis](https://tonilamotta.com/spirituality-and-midlife-crisis/) - by Richard Patterson Midlife crisis has unfortunately become the stuff of made-for-television movies. The weekly crisis of a middle-aged man leaving his wife of twenty years for a woman half his age has become almost a cultural stereotype. Sadly, the profound quality and significance of midlife crisis becomes lost in the process such that men - [Empty Nest, Midlife and the Holidays -](https://tonilamotta.com/empty-nest-midlife-and-the-holidays/) - I notice this year, more than others that traditions no longer work for some families. Children are far away. In-laws have rights, too. Divorce means sharing. Grandparents and parents have died. Military families are separated. Illness causes limitations. Economic challenges affect travel, menus, and gift giving. How do you still have a celebration? 1. Lower - [Getting older and getting better- Midlife and Aging](https://tonilamotta.com/getting-older-and-getting-better-midlife-and-aging/) - The looming reality of senior citizen status scares a lot of boomers. No need. Laura Carstensen, a top expert on aging, says life gets only richer with time. Interview by Patricia B. Gray, Money Magazine contributing writer (Money Magazine) -- At 21, Laura Carstensen had an epiphany that could change your life. In a hospital - [Gratitude - Midlife by Ellen Besso](https://tonilamotta.com/gratitude-midlife-by-ellen-besso/) - Gratitude is about living in the present moment. When we’re not noticing all the good that’s in our lives, we often keep striving to achieve more, be more, get more. Or sometimes we’re locked into the past, into what didn’t work for us then. Holding onto wounds and feeling angry or hurt by past events - [Navigating the Midlife Maze -Tips for Recharging Yourself](https://tonilamotta.com/navigating-the-midlife-maze-tips-for-recharging-yourself/) - From time to time, I like to share what other midlife blogs are saying... This one is something I know you'll like... by Ellen Besso, Personal Coach for Midlife Women For those of us edging towards forty or fifty, our lives are often in major flux. There may be outward signs…our bodies aren’t quite the - [Midlife Reflections on Aging and Growing Older](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-reflections-on-aging-and-growing-older/) - A good friend sent this -- I don't know the author - but, it's worth passing on,, The other day a young person asked me how I felt about being old. I was taken aback, for I do not think of myself as old! Upon seeing my reaction, he was immediately embarrassed, but I explained - [Still Doing It: The Intimate Lives of Women Over Sixty -- Midlife Message](https://tonilamotta.com/still-doing-it-the-intimate-lives-of-women-over-sixty-midlife-message/) - Women's Web is pleased to share with its readers books written by women, for women, and about women. Women of the Silent Generation—those born between 1925 and 1944—may not be going silently into the night. In fact, they're still doing it, still loving it, and getting better at it. Still Doing It: The Intimate Lives - [7 Midlife Career Change Tips - how Van Gogh did it](https://tonilamotta.com/7-midlife-career-change-tips-how-van-gogh-did-it/) - By Lyndsay Swinton It’s never too late for a midlife career change. Before he taught himself how to paint, *Vincent Van Gogh was an art dealer, schoolmaster, student priest, and missionary. Indeed, he was well into his thirties before his artistic talents were recognised. Not too shoddy for a midlife career change! Whether you want - [Books to help through Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/books-to-help-through-midlife/) - Amodeo, John. The Authentic Heart: An Eightfold Path to Midlife Love. New York: John Wiley & Sons, 2001 Andrews, Cecile. The Circle of Simplicity: Return to the Good Life. New York: HarperCollins, 1997. Berner, Jeff. The Joy of Working from Home: Making a Life While Making a Living. San Francisco: Berret-Koehler, 1994. Breathnach, Sarah Ban. - [Midlife Women - Getting Older is Getting Better by Dr. Christiane Northrop](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-women-getting-older-is-getting-better-by-dr-christiane-northrop/) - There’s excellent news for america’s largest generation! Just as tens of millions of Baby Boomers move into their golden years, new research reveals that our latest years may be our happiest. Could it be that youth really is wasted on the young? Young people usually enjoy high energy, peak physical condition, and that shiny optimism - [The Top 10 Questions to Ask When You're Dating at Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/the-top-10-questions-to-ask-when-youre-dating-at-midlife/) - 1. How much baggage is he carrying? "Baggage" is different from life history. Baggage refers to serious unresolved problems -- an ex-wife he can't get over, betrayal by a business partner that has destroyed his trust, or an untreated depression. Nothing's carved in stone. It matters only if the man is stuck, or willing to - [Midlife is Greatly MisUnderstood](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-is-greatly-misunderstood/) - "Midlife is when you reach the top of the ladder and find that it is against the wrong wall." ~ Joseph Campbell Seventy-six million "Baby Boomers" are facing the midlife experience. Midlife is certainly a time of change and transition, but it is only a normal stage of life, like childhood or adolescence. Saying it - [Tips for a successful midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/tips-for-a-successful-midlife/) - Isn’t that what we all want…to live a vibrant and successful life? Celebrating ourselves is good for us. It’s good for our families, our friends and our communities - that positive energy is both life affirming and infectious. What better way to celebrate than to find little ways to indulge yourself and those you love? - [Age of Miracles - All about Midlife Women](https://tonilamotta.com/age-of-miracles-all-about-midlife-women/) - Have you read Marianne Williamson's Age of Miracles, all about midlife? I just read it the second time. It's my quest in life to change the way the world views midlife and I think this is a start. I don't always agree with everything Marianne has to say, but there is a wonderful passage that - [Anger - the Hidden 'Gotcha' of Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/anger-the-hidden-gotcha-of-midlife/) - by hlesbrown For the uninitiated, the midlife crisis seems inexplicable. Why would someone who should be really happy behave so erratically? There's the key, though: they should be really happy . . . but they're not! Even those closest to the midlife sufferer are apt to be shocked and confused because there's no discernible reason - [More Mis-messages about Aging memory loss](https://tonilamotta.com/more-mis-messages-about-midlife/) - How many times have you heard yourself or your friends say, "I'm losing it". EEKS... What are we doing to ourselves? Our words create our reality and if you are referring to forgetting things as you get older, I'd like to encourage you to reframe the experience. Isn't it great that we forget a lot - [Midlife Women in the Age of Miracles: Redefining Over the Hill](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-women-in-the-age-of-miracles-redefining-over-the-hill/) - How do you like hearing the words, Over the Hill? What is that supposed to mean? It has a ring that seems to say that life is on the decline. Yes, we hear that often. There are lots of jokes about how we decline with age rather than that we are finally reaching our potential - [Changing Midlife Messages for Women in the Age of Miracles](https://tonilamotta.com/changing-midlife-messages-for-women-in-the-age-of-miracles/) - This past weekend I attended the Hay House event, I CAN DO IT in Tampa, FL. Marianne Williamson's talk on Midlife, comparing our personal growth and change to what is happening in our world was awesome. She gave us all hope and reminded us that we all went through criseses in our younger years and - [A Midlife Conversation about the Aging Process](https://tonilamotta.com/a-midlife-conversation/) - I had an interesting conversation last night with some of my friends who have a few years on me. They were excited about what I am doing. We have never really had any mentors to show us the positive aspects of aging, they both agreed. All we ever heard was - hide the wrinkles, watch - [Midlife Women in the Age of Miracles: What are the mis-messages we've received?](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-women-in-the-age-of-miracles-what-are-the-mis-messages-weve-received/) - I'm reading Marianne Williamson's latest book again and it's helping to evoke some of my own ideas about midlife. Her life and mine have been very different and while we are on similar paths, we come to some different conclusions or at least different viewpoints. It's made me wonder about what YOUR viewpoints on midlife - [Changing your Life - through Mind Movies - here's mine](https://tonilamotta.com/dr-tonis-mind-movie/) - To view Dr. Toni's personalized visualization movie: goto YouTube and type in Dr. Toni's Mind Movie or click on or copy and paste the link below http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gulkRm1RIpU [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gulkRm1RIpU] - [Service is Key to Feeling Good](https://tonilamotta.com/women-in-midlife-service-is-key-to-feeling-good-even-for-women-over-40/) - Solace In Service Doing For Others When we feel bad, often our first instinct is to isolate ourselves and focus on what’s upsetting us. Sometimes we really do need some downtime, but many times the best way to get out of the blues quickly is to turn our attention to other people. In being of - [Women in Midlife: Learning to FLOW with the Universe](https://tonilamotta.com/women-in-midlife-learning-to-flow-with-the-universe/) - The flow of the universe moves through everything. It is in the rocks that form, get pounded into dust, and are blown away. It is in the blossoming of a flower born from a seed planted in the spring. The growth cycle that every human being goes through is part of this natural flow, which - [Are You Visioning Or Visualizing? The Difference Will Lead You To A Fuller Life](https://tonilamotta.com/women-in-midlife-are-you-visioning-or-visualizing-the-difference-will-lead-you-to-a-fuller-life/) - Have you learned how to relax more in midlife and start moving from MAKING things happen to allowing them to happen? This is a critical step in moving through midlife. Most of us live our lives moving back and forth between being victim and believing that life is happening to us and being manifestors or - [Women In Midlife - Opening To An Experience Of Oneness With All Of Life Changes Your Own Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/women-in-midlife-opening-to-an-experience-of-oneness-with-all-of-life-changes-your-own-midlife/) - As we move through midlife, we go through many stages of spiritual growth. Often, we learn to move from being victim, to being fully responsible for manifesting in our lives. We then learn to surrender to something higher than ourselves, though fully part of ourselves. The final stage of spiritual growth is one that not - [Midlife maturity - taking care of yourself](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-maturity-taking-care-of-yourself/) - Living For Ourselves Trying To Please Others Most of us come to a point in our lives when we question why we are doing what we are doing, and many of us come to realize that we may be living our lives in an effort to make our parents happy. This realization can dawn when - [There's No Free Lunch - Dr. Joseph Murphy](https://tonilamotta.com/theres-no-free-lunch-dr-joseph-murphy/) - As the old saying goes, “There’s no such thing as a free lunch.” Recently I was in a store that was offering a free pack of razor blades if you bought two tubes of shaving cream. Well, of course, the blades weren’t really free—their cost was passed on to the customers indirectly in - [Aging - by a Lakota Grandmother](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-and-aging-2/) - AGING Lakota Grandmother speaking to young adult grandson: “In the days of our youth, however, we put our faith in flesh, blood, and bone. We think strength is going faster, farther, and higher. We solve a problem by overwhelming it, or wearing it down. But there comes a time when we can no longer do - [Menopause and Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/menopause-and-midlife/) - Recently I watched an Oprah show that featured Dr. Christiana Northroup and I was struck particularly by something she said (well, a lot of what she said). To paraphrase -- our soul keeps calling us to grow and sends messages continually. When we do not listen to the message, it begins to speak to us - [Midlife and Abundance](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-and-abundance/) - I've been re-reading an old favorite, "You Money or Your Life" and am reminded of something I truly believe. I find that as part of the spirituality in the aging process, most of us don't know when enough is enough. I, for one, never think I am doing enough...with the emphasis on the doing. Midlife - [Momentum in Midlife](https://tonilamotta.com/momentum-in-midlife/) - Today I heard a lecture from someone who used to work with Tony Robbins. I want to share a process he shared with us. I think it fits in my latest midlife musings. For anything to happen in life, for a true Midlife Reinvention, you need to take it through several stages before setting goals: - [Midlife Musings](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-musings/) - Do you have a good coach? I do. I think it's important. But, it's particularly important to have one that honors YOU and your thinking and feeling, rather than one who tells you what to do. I discovered (well, I knew it before but it got clearer yesterday) that I often believe what other people - [Midlife women and goals](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-women-and-goals/) - Permit me to think out loud here because today I feel confused. EEKS - aren't I the one who always talks about clarity? Well, I'm re-reading a book that I read many years ago called, Your Money or Your Life and it is helping me to highlight a major belief I have that 'enough is - [What about those old Goals?](https://tonilamotta.com/women-and-midlife/) - This morning I had breakfast with a good friend who was lamenting that life didn't turn out the way she had planned. Mine hasn't either. And, I have been wondering lately how few people actually can say in midlife that their life took exactly the direction they expected. How we handle this difference is hugely - [Midlife Crisis or Opportunity - Getting Clear](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-crisis-or-opportunity-getting-clear/) - The first step in experiencing or manifestinganything in our lives is to be clear on what it is we REALLY want. – The word REALLY is important here as you may or may not have yet discovered. How do you get clear? And how Do you get to know what you REALLY Want? Let’s start - [Midlife and the Law of Attraction - Am I Really That Powerful?](https://tonilamotta.com/midlife-and-the-law-of-attraction-am-i-really-that-powerful/) - People often speak of miracles by saying that they experience the power of God as if the power of God was beyond anything we can readily imagine or experience. But the truth is, as we develop the receptivity to OWNING God's power as our OWN and start to realize that it is within each and - [Affirmative Prayer](https://tonilamotta.com/affirmative-prayer/) - Let us speak vehemently to God in Heaven, whose Presence is in our midst, as though He would surely obey. We know that He only is greatest in our midst; and Jesus Christ said, "He that is greatest among you shall be your servant." H.B. Jeffery, "Mystical Teachings" 27,9 Dare to speak, and to know - [7 secrets to "Reinvent Midlife" From the Inside-Out](https://tonilamotta.com/7-secrets-to-reinvent-midlife-from-the-inside-out/) - Years ago, I was part of a woman’s drumming circle whose members ranged from 7 to 97. At one meeting we were celebrating someone’s 50th birthday and the leader asked that only those 50 and older speak that night. Each person in turn talked about the freedom she finally felt to be herself. Many - [What are the Qualities of God?](https://tonilamotta.com/what-are-the-qualities-of-god/) - Of course this list is not complete… But, I find these the easiest to focus on. ABUNDANCE - Plentifulness, profusion, and ample or overflowing quantity. (The state of having more than enough!) BALANCE - Equilibrium, harmony, an aesthetically pleasing integration of elements. (Giving enough energy and time to everything that is important to you.) BEAUTY - [Joe Vitale on Gratitude](https://tonilamotta.com/joe-vitale-on-gratitude/) - My latest book, "The Key: The Missing Secret to Attracting Whatever You Want," comes out late next month. Here's an excerpt from it.... ***** Excerpt from "The Key" ***** [Although this happened in the past it is a great example of how to have miracles show up in your life.] One day I drove into - [PROSPERITY SECRETS OF THE AGES](https://tonilamotta.com/prosperity-secrets-of-the-ages/) - One of the major truths of the Spiritual life is that there is ALWAYS more. It is the nature of Spirit to expand and our nature to continually be seeking SOMETHING MORE. We don’t have to be frustrated in the search. Just like there are laws that govern mathematics, music, physics and the physical universe, - [REFLECTIONS on the Our Father -- part 4](https://tonilamotta.com/reflections-on-the-our-father-part-4/) - Let bread be present IN THIS MOMENT – daily bread LIVE in the moment - ask again and again I have two cats and Cats live in moment. They see a bird – chase and miss it - They fume and fuss to get it out of their system & then move on. Cats have: - [REFLECTIONS on the Our Father -- part 3](https://tonilamotta.com/reflections-on-the-our-father-part-3/) - Let your I Can energy flow through me now. Mark Victor Hansen of Chicken Soup for the Soul fame, once said, "I am a conduit for God -means- I CAN DO IT…" LET there be - is a Decree prayer – God is saying I CAN. Discover where you are saying I Can't and replace - [REFLECTIONS on the Our Father -- part 2](https://tonilamotta.com/reflections-on-the-our-father-part-2/) - You manifest all Creation, including me, out of your radiant Light. As I realize that I am connected to the Source of all energy and the vibration in the cosmos, I bring Heaven to earth. Heaven is already here --- IT’S MY PERCEPTION THAT MAKES LIFE hell… Whatever I am focusing on causes me to - [From Joe Vitale - Fear and the Creative Power of Your Mind](https://tonilamotta.com/from-joe-vitale-fear-and-the-creative-power-of-your-mind/) - by Kathy Zant www.ZeroFearNow.com Fear affects all of us. People talk about the fight or flight response, but there's another reaction that is even more common and detrimental: becoming paralyzed, unable to move. Thoughts about what may happen race through our minds coming up with elaborate possibilities... possibilities that will likely never occur. Often when - [REFLECTIONS on the Our Father -- part 1](https://tonilamotta.com/reflections-on-the-our-father-part-1/) - I don't think calling God Father is a gender issue anymore . A Father is one who gives origin to, or brings forth into the world. So we are all fathers to our own experience. We are all the creators of our life. Whether you are doing it consciously or not, you are the creator - [To Be or To Do](https://tonilamotta.com/to-be-or-to-do/) - Lately, I've been pondering the question how much of life is about being and how much about doing? Actually, I understand the Law of Attraction and know that Everything is consciousness. I also understand about inspired action. It's no good to just go about doing. We are not meant to be human doings but human - [A New Look at Goal Setting](https://tonilamotta.com/a-new-look-at-goal-setting/) - One of the main principles I teach is that what you focus on increases…and if you focus on what you are grateful for, you begin to see more. If you find yourself focusing on what there isn't enough of - it - first of all feels awful - and secondly - produces MORE of the - [Making Time](https://tonilamotta.com/making-time/) - In our modern society, even people who are retired have a lot of demands on their time. To find time to seek God we have to simplify our lives; there is no way around it. So much time is wasted in the endless pursuit of "newer and better" material possessions. What is the result of - [Yin and Yang](https://tonilamotta.com/yin-and-yang/) - I've been thinking a lot lately about the Yin and Yang of life. How do you balance the need to take action and make things happen with the need to allow them to happen? I believe that in our society, more people need to move towards allowing than towards doing more. We are a community - [The Law of Attraction](https://tonilamotta.com/the-law-of-attraction/) - A man lived by the side of the road and sold hot dogs. He was hard of hearing so he had no radio. He had trouble with his eyes so he read no newspaper, nor did he watch t.v. But, he sold great hot dogs. He put a sign up on the highway telling how - [Harmonizing Opposites](https://tonilamotta.com/harmonizing-opposites/) - Did you know that an eagle knows when a storm is approaching long before it breaks? The eagle will fly to some high spot and wait for the winds to come. When the storm hits, it sets its wings so that the wind will pick it up and lift it above the storm. While the - [Time for Everything](https://tonilamotta.com/time-for-everything/) - Do you make time in your life for everything that is important to you? Notice I said MAKE not HAVE – because we all have exactly the same amount of hours in a day and days in a year. It’s how we choose to use them that makes the difference. Today our topic, the Quality - [Joe Vitale and Zero Limits - a great idea for all](https://tonilamotta.com/joe-vitale-and-zero-limits-a-great-idea-for-all/) - A "Crazy" New Way to Increase Sales -- from Zero by Dr. Joe Vitale www.mrfire.com In my new book, "Zero Limits," I talk about the unusual therapist who helped heal an entire hospital ward of mentally ill criminals -- without seeing any of them. I've since learned his method for healing, which involves "cleaning" yourself - [The Law of Attraction](https://tonilamotta.com/the-law-of-attraction-2/) - This is an article that was written by Walter Starke - one of my favorite authors. Please read and comment below This year the “The Secret” is sweeping the country. What it refers to as the secret is the Law of Attraction - that our thoughts attract or draw to us what our lives - [WITH FORGIVENESS](https://tonilamotta.com/with-forgiveness/) - I would like to make you aware of a beautiful project that is beginning today. It’s something we feel each and every one of us can relate to – forgiveness. Two very special women: Sheri Rosenthal, DPM and Susyn Reeve M.Ed. have created an experience that we can all participate in and learn from. The - [Law of Attraction - The Practice of PEACE](https://tonilamotta.com/law-of-attraction-the-practice-of-peace/) - How do we practice peace? I call it nonviolent living and here again we can go on forever - individually, in our relationships, and in our world. What about nonviolent living with ourselves? How many of us are living driven? We’ve got to get this done, we’ve got to do that thing, and the world - [Law of Attraction - The Experience of PEACE](https://tonilamotta.com/law-of-attraction-the-experience-of-peace/) - Peace is also an experience. It is the experience that happens when everything is in perfect timing, just as it should be. This is a big one and it helps you to see why you need to focus on this for a year. Just accepting things as they are is peaceful. The minute we feel - [Law of Attraction - The Feeling of PEACE](https://tonilamotta.com/law-of-attraction-the-feeling-of-peace/) - What if we could have only one wish and it would be for peace? What would it look like? What would happen when we focused on that quality? What would a spiritual practice based in peace look like on a daily basis? Let’s begin by asking ourselves, “What is peace?” How would we define it? - [](https://tonilamotta.com/55-2/) - [Law of Attraction is about choosing LOVE or FEAR](https://tonilamotta.com/law-of-attraction-is-about-choosing-love-or-fear/) - When Mother Teresa received her Nobel Prize, she was asked, what can we do to promote world Peace? She replied, Go home and Love your Family! 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Pass - [The First Step to Forgiveness](https://tonilamotta.com/the-first-step-to-forgiveness/) - Abraham Maslow once gave a final exam to one of his psych classes. There was only one question. Suppose a self-actualized person came into a party wearing a baseball cap, a pair of jeans and a tee shirt and everyone else at the party was in formal attire – tuxes, gowns. What would he do? - [More than Enough](https://tonilamotta.com/even-more/) - Abundance is defined as the state of having more than enough.. Does anyone here ever feel as if they have more than enough? More than enough bills maybe, and more than enough worries and more than enough to do…but, many of us live as if Scarcity was the law of the Universe. Just the opposite - [COMPLETION What is it? How do I do it?](https://tonilamotta.com/completion-what-is-it-how-do-i-do-it/) - Before you can begin anything new, you have to complete the old. 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It is a remarkable healing modality based on the same principles that - [Answer5](https://tonilamotta.com/consciousaging/myth-quiz/answer5/) - Aging Quiz – Answer 5 Physical handicaps are the primary factors limiting the activities of older adults Answer: False - The primary handicap that older adults experience is the result of age stereotyping and ageism. Both age stereotyping and ageism have a negative impact on the older adult. They serve to limit the activities and - [Answer4](https://tonilamotta.com/consciousaging/myth-quiz/answer4/) - Aging Quiz – Answer 4 Most older adults have difficulty adapting to change; they are set in their ways. Answer: False - Older adults are no more rigid than younger adults. This tends to be a relatively stable personality characteristic. 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