Do you have a good coach? I do. I think it’s important. But, it’s particularly important to have one that honors YOU and your thinking and feeling, rather than one who tells you what to do. I discovered (well, I knew it before but it got clearer yesterday) that I often believe what other people say to me more than I trust my own guts and ideas. Why is that so? I haven’t fully explored that yet – I’ll keep you posted. But, I remember a time in high school when I got in trouble for something and my mom was angry at the teacher and I said – “she must be right!” Whew… I was already doubting my own knowing. I had done nothing wrong. Seriously.
It’s one of those midlife musings again to see the balance between getting help and acknowledging that you have all the answers within you. I’m beginning to see that the reason to go to a coach or counselor is to help get clear on what I already know. I often find myself saying, “No, that’s not it.” and that response is as valuable as the one that says, “right on!”
I invite you to ponder how often you go outside yourself to find answers that you already know. Do you know the difference. Let me hear from you. (It will help me clarify my own wisdom….)
I’ve come to know, as you have, that I already have within me all the answers I seek. What I go to friends and books for are the conversations that will help me ask the right questions or reframe what I’m examining. You’ve been so helpful to me in that regard. Thank you.
Coach Judy
Inspired Outcomes
Life Coaching from the Insight Out
Great insight Toni! You speak the truth. A great coach looks at you as a creative, resourceful and whole human being. Our job as life coaches is to draw the answers out of you by helping you see your life through new perspectives, look at what may be holding you back and get you excited about the possibilities of your life!
Thank you!
Louise Aspden, Co-Active Coach
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